@pandalomax
hi, i'm new here and would like to share with you some thoughts
of mine.
3 things you can do :
1. Try it out
2. Throw it out
3. Think about it
Change your nickname to say, happymax , hooraymax - whatever you
like
when you have a headache, you think of
.............dol
That is the power of advertisment ,it has a subliminal effect on
our brains. That means, the more you use it , the better you
remember it (like a habit )
I remembered listening to a good audio sometime back about a
coach asking his guest speaker who trains on memory and asked him -
how long do you take to remember something? His reply was : Until
I choose to forget it
In short, all of us have excellent memory , maybe some weaker
but not bad memory like most of us think.
To get out of where you are now is to have a clear picture of
where you want to go. Do you know where you are going ?
If you do not have clarity on your destination, then naturally
you would circle where you are right now and start to view things
less objectively. You would have magnify your circumstances bigger
than the possible solutions.
When that happens, you start to ask , why me? How come? Listen
to love songs about break-up , etc (all these activities reinforce
what you think about).
Blessings
Sincerely, give your blessings
to your ex- gf. This is one of the hardest for most of my clients.
I know it hurts and all sorts of emotions surface up when a break
up happens. It takes time but this has to be done.
Clients who do not listen came back to me on a relationship
rebound because they were still living in the past "shadow" without
properly letting it go.
Dateline
Like your exams and homework, you have a dateline to submit ,
regardless of you do it at the eleventh hour or not. Set that date
for yourself - by xx/xx/2014. Your thoughts, words and actions must
be aligned.
That means no more thinking, talking and enacting your previous
behavior (example :when out with friends and you passed by a place
you and her spent time with - and you said : You know, xx and I
used to come here , and we do this............do that ........and
you started smiling, recalling the nice memories )
Nothing wrong with that as each relationship gives us that but
you gotta retain the memories as that and move on in real life. The
media and movies would tell you otherwise , haha.
Talk to someone
It's not true that men do not talk about relationships problem
like women. That's what they do not understand us deeply, haha.
This forum might be a safe and avenue for you to share your
thoughts and let out your steam in a healthy way.
I hope this helps and I think
happymax sounds nice
:)
Desmond
