i mean, perhaps he feels that i didn't put things in a nice
words enough to him (maybe miscommuncation?) for the whole of this
exchange. But i really didn't flare up at all. i was
making my statement.
& after he text me for the breakup, I still tried calling
him twice, but he refused to answer my calls.
So i replied him in a fit of anger, "asking him is this really what
he wants?"
"& if u doesn't even want to give me a proper closure it speaks
a lot about u. & u are quite a different person whom u claims
to be. i guess the feelings wasn't strong enough for both of us. i
have done my part in reaching out but u ignored me tho i find it
disappointing too."
"& u r not alone. i too, find that our character doesn't match.
u r a nice guy. but i probably prefer a man who is not too
narrow-minded and is willing to work things out, making decisions
together instead of jumping into conclusions alone. & not being
a hypocrite who appears to be a pleaser where in actual fact who
just wants his way.
Good luck to finding a accommodating girl. & u r right, with
such a mindset of urs, u r indeed more suited for GIRLS.
Yes, at this point, I know my reply might be harsh. But I
really felt very maligned and hurt by him, by just
wanting to pack up & go without even wanting to seek for a
compromise between us. I don't know if I should regret with my
reply to him.
Ladies, (or guys) what do u think u would do now? Is he trying to
do this to seek for attention?
Please.... I need really concrete sound advise before I decide to
salvage or to let go from here...
You probably
realized that the amount of reactive response intended (at that
moment) to hurt wasn't helping you to build a closer relationship.
I am sure you are also hurt by his response insofar that it
triggered your inner aggression akin to unsheathing your dagger
after kicking him down, so as to stab a couple more times the
appease the pride anger.
There are probably two issues:
i) You don't really know him very well and pride is one of the
greatest obstacles to any potentially good relationship. Surely the
first quarrel would provide great insights into what is there to
expect should you continue to pursue this relationship. Hence, you
have to decide if this is fundamentally an nonnegotiable
compatibility issues that you can or cannot work around.
ii) There are poor conflict management within the relationship
and would require some level of serious HTHT to teeth out some
critical issues by negotiating and agreeing on some workable format
for your relationship. Surely for him to escape overseas because he
has been 'badly injured emotionally' may sound somewhat
ridiculous/irrational, but it is likely to be his (could be) usual
coping mechanism.
It is good that you plan to meet with him to talk things out;
both of you might want to have some resolution with regards to (1)
how we can avoid wounding each other when we are angry (2) how can
we be mindful when we express ourselves. 
Cheers
