Hi All
Currently I am serving NS. There's this girl whom was my previous
poly classmate. We are together for 3 Years 2 months whom just
called it quits with me over Family Related Issues and Time
Commitment as I am currently in NS. And as I do shift work my
weekends are not guranteed.
She broke the news first to me via text as first saying she is
considering our relationship as she was very stress with her
studies, personal commitments, Family Issues as well as Extra
Curricular Activities in school. We thrashed matters over massage
as she was busy mugging for her Quizzes up in a few days time. I
even dropped by her school to look for her unannounced to tell her
how much I miss her and love her and we talked for a bit before she
told me she needed a cooling period to cool off.
Honestly I was devastated and smothered her with messages of how
much I love and miss her daily and even called her but to no avail
during the cooling off period. I know I should not have done this
after consulting some of my friends.
After 1 week she texted me saying she thought enough and that she
came to a decision. That she don't think that we can ever resolve
the issues that she thinks are problems in our relationship. I
replied citing to meet up for her to break the news to me as a
courtesy of our 3 years relationship and she agreed to the meet up
after her upcoming exams.
I asked her to allow me to buy her a meal when she came over for
the agreed agenda. As I really love her and want to chase her back
to be part of my life.
Any Recommendations or advice you could give me to make this
turnaround a success?
Certainty it
sucks having to experience break-up during NS period - especially
given that, though you may desire to spend more quality time with
her, you are probably fettered by regimental constrains that
shackle your time in a major way.
She seemed to have made a calibrated decision and the mutual
factors of physical and emotional distance would probably aid her
to exit readily. Hence, your chances are probably slim - even if
you win this single battle of 'winning her back' now - this
relationship would not likely to survive a protracted war.
You are already doing your best in trying to secure a date with
her insofar as you could brandish a fighting chance to convey what
you need in hope of having to touch her enough to come back.
However, my sense is that any attempt at behaving
melodramatically (from you) is likely to reinforce the symbolic
message that her choice (to leave this relationship) is more likely
to be right than wrong.
She does not actively appear to look for resolving problems in
the relationship; she probably gave up trying to manage them and
calls to abandon ship - with or without your consent.
P.S: You might feel bitter over this brutal callous reality that
she chose to leave you at this juncture - but perhaps some love are
akin to bubbles; they are not made to last forever and burst
instantly in face of gnawing adversity.
I am sure it is amazingly beautiful while it lasted.
Unfortunately, we can't control when bubbles will disappear - just
like we have no control over when love will crumble from
within. 
Cheers