Happiness to a large extent depends on ourselves; how we handle
situation or things that are happening everyday.
I remember something which goes,
it is not what happened but
how we handle what happened that make the difference. Wishing you
happiness always and remember that happiness is a choice.
Daily life can be made happier. It is a matter of choice.
It is our attitude that makes us feel happy or unhappy.
It is true, we meet all kinds of situations during the day, and
some of them may not be conductive to happiness. We can choose to
keep thinking about the unhappy events, and we can choose to refuse
to think about them, and instead, relish the happy moments.
All of us constantly go through various situations and
circumstances, but we do not have to let them influence our
reactions and feelings. If we let outer events influence our moods,
we become their slaves. We lose our freedom. We let our happiness
be determined by outer forces. On the other hand, we can free
ourselves from outer influences. We can choose to be happy, and we
can do a lot to add happiness to our lives.
What is happiness? It is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction.
It is usually experienced when there are no worries, fears or
obsessing thoughts, and this usually happens, when we do something
we love to do or when we get, win, gain or achieve something that
we value. It seems to be the outcome of positive events, but it
actually comes from the inside, triggered by outer events.
For most people happiness seems fleeting, because they let changing
outer circumstances affect it. One of the best ways to keep it, is
by gaining inner peace through daily meditation. As the mind
becomes more peaceful, it becomes easier to choose the happiness
habit.
Here are a few tips for increasing happiness in daily life:
1. Endeavor to change the way you look at things. Always look at
the bright side. The mind may drag you to think about negativity
and difficulties. Dont let it. Look at the good and positive side
of every situation.
2. Think of solutions, not problems.
3. Listen to relaxing, uplifting music.
4. Watch funny comedies that make you laugh.
5. Each day, devote some time to reading a few pages of an
inspiring book or article.
6. Watch your thoughts. Whenever you catch yourself thinking
negative thoughts, start thinking of pleasant things.
7. Always look at what you have done and not at what you havent.
Sometimes you may begin the day with the desire to accomplish
several objectives. At the end of the day you might feel frustrated
and unhappy, because you havent been able to do all of those
things.
Look at what you have done, not at what you have not been able to
do. You may have accomplished a lot during the day, and yet you let
yourself become frustrated, because of some small things that you
did not accomplish. You have spent all day successfully carrying
out many plans, and instead of feeling happy and satisfied, you
look at what was not accomplished and feel unhappy. It is unfair
toward yourself.
8. Each day do something good for yourself. It can be something
small, such buying a book, eating something you love, watching you
favorite program on TV, going to a movie, or just having a stroll
on the beach.
9. Each day do at least one act to make others happy. This can be a
kind word, helping your colleagues, stopping your car at the
crossroad to let people cross, giving your seat in a bus to someone
else, or giving a small present to someone you love. The
possibilities are infinite. When you make someone happy, you become
happy, and then people try to make you happy.
10. Always expect happiness.
11. Do not envy people who are happy. On the contrary, be happy for
their happiness.
12. Associate with happy people, and try to learn from them to be
happy. Remember, happiness is contagious.
13. Do your best to stay detached, when things do not proceed as
intended and desired. Detachment will help you stay calm and
control your moods and reactions. Detachment is not indifference.
It is the acceptance of the good and the bad and staying balanced.
Detachment has much to do with inner peace, and inner peace is
conductive to happiness.
14. Smile more often.
