Why does life suck? This is a question many of us ask at some
time or another. Actually life doesn't really suck, but it can
certainly feel that way sometimes.
Wouldn't it be great if everything ran smooth all the time, from
the moment we wake up to the moment we go to bed? Wouldn't it be
great to land our dream job, doing what we love and large paycheck
to boot? Wouldn't it be great if all our relationships ran
smoothly, if our partner understood and respected our innermost
feelings?
In fact, it wouldn't be so great at all. It might be nice for a
little while, but pretty soon it would feel dull as dishwater.
What's more, we wouldn't be fulfilling our true purpose in being
born into this world, ie to learn and grow.
Many Spiritual philosophies tell that we choose our life path and
lessons to be learned before we are born. Though we have free will
on earth the choices we made appear throughout our lives.
It's true; some people have harder lives than others. But that is
because they chose to experience those things.
Why would anyone choose hardship? Because in facing, defying, and
overcoming adversity we gain much more experience than we ever
could from plain sailing. Life is short - just think of a human
lifespan compared to the age of the earth. When we eventually
return home it isn't the inflated bank account, big houses and
flashy cars that we carry with us. It is the lessons we learned
throughout the adventure of incarnation.
Keeping the above in mind will give you the strength to keep going
through the dark days when life really does appear to suck.
Perhaps it's an issue of self-esteem. You've done something you
feel bad about. Rest assured, to be human is to err. We've all done
things that with the benefit of hindsight we wouldn't have done.
None of us can reverse time. But we can resolve to do more right
than wrong, more good than harm in future. And that is our raison
d'etre, our purpose to not only continue but continue full speed
ahead rather than decrying life's hardships. If we are here it is
because we, and God have chosen that we are here and we have a duty
to make the best of what is really a golden opportunity.
Human nature is such that we tend to notice only those things that
trouble us or fail to meet our approval. How often do we wake in
the morning and appreciate how good we feel? Probably not often
enough. But if we happen to feel slightly under the weather we
notice it like hell. If a business or service falls short of our
expectations we are quick to complain, but how many of us bother to
show our appreciation for a job well done? It's just the way we
are.
It may be a cliché, but counting your blessings really can really
be an eye opener when life seems to suck. Sit down somewhere quiet,
pour yourself a drink and put on your favorite music. Now write
down what's troubling you. Then take a new sheet of paper and write
down all the positives in our life. You should find there are many
more positives than negatives. Look again at your troubles and it
should be easier to find solutions, or at least appropriate courses
of action, for each of them.
