If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you,
be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just
didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love
him/her, feel honoured that love came and called at your door, but
gently refuse the gift you cannot return, do not take advantage, do
not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts
feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are
different.
If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with
you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to
assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can
really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your
life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and
give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to
others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you
in anyway you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been
so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see
their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they
begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than
from them.
The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their
love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to
be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks
love.
They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that
it can be made to grow only by giving it away.
Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time,
its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You
cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can
only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to
you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart
of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you
should do.
Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it
came to live for a moment in your life.
