There are few of us who escape feelings of fear and self-doubt
as we
go about our life. Not to worry! We can all learn how to create
within
us a wonderful sense of confidence and peace of mind as we face
all
situations in our lives. Here are very powerful tools to help us
push
through the fear and self-doubt in order to create a beautiful
and
satisfying life...
1. Build your sense of trust in yourself. Your first task is to
build
the trust that whatever happens in your life, you can handle it
all.
Right now, think of something about any area of your life that
is
bothering you and repeat to yourself ten times the important
words,
"Whatever happens, I'll handle it." I suspect you will
immediately
begin to feel a sense of peace within your being. These are
important
words to have when the "what if's" come up. "What if I lose my
job?
I'll handle it." "What if I get sick? I'll handle it." "What
if
something happens to my marriage? I'll handle it." And what does
"I'll
handle it" mean? It means, "I'll learn from it. I'll grow from
it.
I'll make it a triumph!"
2. Do your very best, then let go of the outcome. To help you let
go,
develop the trust that "It's all happening perfectly." This
calming
affirmation is a shortened version of: "I've done my best, but even
if
things don't go the way I want them to go, I will simply find a way
to
be enriched by whatever life brings me. I will learn and grow from
it
all. Therefore, it truly is all happening perfectly." Repetition
over
and over again of this wonderful affirmation, will definitely
quiet
the negative chatter of the mind and help you let go of the
outcome.
Peace at last!
3. Stop complaining. Complaining is a big clue that you are not
taking
responsibility for your experience of life. Instead of seeing
life's
obstacles as problems, see them as opportunities, opening the door
to
growth. When you can control your reactions to whatever life
hands
you, you have the upper hand. You now have a choice: You can
create
your own misery...or you can create your own sense of growth
and
wellbeing. That's power! Every time you have the opportunity
to
stretch your capacity to handle the world around you, the
more
powerful and confident you will feel.
4. Yes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Often we think, "I'll do
it
when I am not so afraid." But in reality, it works the other
way
round. The "doing it" comes before the fear goes away. The only way
to
get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.
Action
is the key. Once you have done something you have feared a number
of
times, guess what happens...the fear of that particular situation
goes
away. And it's then time to further expand the comfort zone and
move
on to the next situation you fear. That's what growth is all
about.
And as your confidence builds, it will become easier and easier
to
"feel the fear and do it anyway!"
