In my opinion, funerals are for the living.
When I die, I don't really care what happens to my body.
Personally, I would just want to be cremated and my ashes thrown
into the sea. This is not because I have any affinity for the sea.
It's just that I think it's the most considerate approach.
If my ashes are kept, there's a tendency to want to pay the ashes
respect. I actually wouldn't mind if my ashes are just disposed off
in the garbage or something - but I realised that my loved ones may
be uncomfortable with the idea. So getting them tossed in the sea
is a compromise of sorts.
I don't want a fancy coffin or any rites. I'm dead after all. If
you want to hold a fancy funeral for me, don't waste money on a
coffin - it's going to get burned anyway.
As I said before, funerals are for the living. It pleases me to
think my friends and loved ones might get together to celebrate
life. Not to say goodbye to me... they should have said that while
I was still alive. Nowadays, we are so busy that we meet usually
only at weddings and funerals. It would please me if my funeral
could be used as an excuse for my friends and loved ones to get
together.
