I know Im kinda new, may not be my place to put in my 2 cents...
but I wrote an article on this particular subject a few years ago
that was published in the US magazine, "Elle."
How Love Should Be
I was at B&N a few days ago, was looking for the new Maxim
when I came across this new magazine called Ramp. Now who can
resist a mag with half-naked girl on the cover and headlines like
Sex Threesomes and 69 Great Guy Inventions? The content seems very
much like popular guy mags Maxim and FHM etc. I was reading through
it, yeah I do read sometimes, and of course being the pervert that
I am, I’m reading the article on Threesomes. I come across this
section on the 5 Wildest Female Fantasies. Wow, yeah they have 5!!
You know guys only have one, like sex with 2 girls at once and I'd
be a happy camper. Ok so they have 5, in no particular order: sex
with a stranger, being submissive, being dominant, and threesomes
(betcha didn't know that huh). Oh wait, I did say 5 right, well get
this.. The fantasy number 1 is "being in love." They even
interviewed porn star Tera Patrick and she says, "I really want to
fall in love, and make love, with someone who'll sweep me off my
feet, make love to me in the sunset, feed me breakfast, treat me
like a queen." Now isn't that just grand.
So here you are thinking to yourself, is that what women really
want? I need to tell you, I think that is what men and women both
want. Most are a bit too proud to admit it, and a few claim they
are happy being the playas they are and don't need love. But I
honestly believe everyone, needs and want love. In most cases,
people stop believing in the existence of love because they had it
at one time and lost it, or they fell for it and got hurt, or they
just can't help it but keep meeting assholes and bitches. Yes love
is grand, love does exist and not something flower growers and
greeting card manufacturers came up with on their own. There are no
true words to describe it, it's just there, in your heart you feel
it and then your whole persona just gives off that vibe that you’re
in love. It's not something you can look for, it just comes to you.
You ask me how do I know. Well I've seen it first hand and no I’m
not in love at the current moment. I saw it with my roommate and
his girlfriend. It’s a real phenomenon, there we were at Ibiza,
among hundreds of young and attractive females, my buddy is faded
and just wondering around. He sees this tall and gorgeous lady
standing by herself, with legs from here to China, and what the
hell, asks her what her tattoo says. I mean come on now, if that
isn't meant to be, what is? Something as simple as that, and two
souls meet and come together as one, and love is formed yet
again.
You think that's it don't you? Well it's not that simple, nothing
is that simple. Love, like all other aspects of life, need to be
worked on. You can't just fall in love and expect it to be there
forever. Men take that for granted all the time. Love is a
relationship, and all relationships need to be reinforced and you
need to keep working at it to make it stronger and better. You
figure, she's with me, therefore she will always be with me, and
then you cry and sulk when they tell you they don't feel it anymore
and that they found someone else that is perhaps their true soul
mate. Guys! You need to keep it going, you need to keep her in love
as much as she has to keep you in love. Why you think she gets all
dressed up when she goes out with you and gets those hot outfits
from Victoria's Secret, and those lotions that make you go berserk?
Its cause she knows how to keep you interested, but you gotta
return the favor, you gotta do things to make her feel like she is
in love. Not just in the beginning, all the time, you need to do
little things that keep her interested.
The key word here is little things. Women are generally much more
sensitive than us men. I don't mean she breaks out in rashes when
she gets something on her skin. Women notice a lot more than us
guys, and they expect you to notice them too, and when we don't,
they trip out. They want us to notice they did their hair
differently, notice that they are feeling down, and that when your
mom tells them they have gained weight, it means much more than
when your mom tells you that. Subconsciously, most women want
approval, from you, from those around you, from their co-workers,
and most of all from your parents. Why do you think women say they
prefer a more sensitive guy? It's not they want a guy that cries at
the push of a button, they want a guy with more emotions, that can
feel what they feel, that can understand how to deal with it, and
must of all to notice all the little things. You don't think she is
keeping tabs, but she does; she, like you is out there searching
for the ONE also.
Is there such thing as the ONE, your lifelong partner and
companion, your soul mate. Yes I truly believe there is someone
like that out there for everyone. Someone you can love, trust,
respect, believe in, depend on, and through it all, will always be
there for you. For most of us, that may still be our parents, for a
few that has found true love, kudos to you. That one needs to truly
understand you, love you for who you are, and they need to be your
best friend, someone that will support you in whatever you do, yet
not trip when you check out that babe at the mall, or even if you
talk to a few attractive girls at a party. They need to be secure
with themselves in order to be secure with you. When it comes down
to it, romance wins. (Please refer to my previous article on
romance) Remember, when women are in love, they are more
comfortable with you, willing to do many more exciting things that
will WOW you. Finding the ONE, will make you both feel very sexy
about yourselves.
