NEVER invest your heart, time, money or energy with a woman who
is not interested in you. Although this might seem like common
sense, in reality we always see the exact opposite scenario. Love
is a two way street. A one sided affair will only be just that, one
sided.
Men have been brainwashed by mainstream media into thinking that he
should have perseverance/determination when pursuing a woman he is
interested in. We see it all the time in cinemas and on TV. The
usual story goes like this. A guy goes after a lady he is
interested in. After being rejected for the first time, he refuses
to give up. He thinks of ways and means to win her heart. He starts
to do various nice things for her in a bid to win her over. And
after a while, the lady finally falls for him due to all his
efforts. This is classic brainwashing because this is not how it
works in reality. And every time men watch these scenarios in
movies and drama serials, we begin to think that this is how it’s
supposed to be. It can’t be further from the truth. This bullshit
out there is seriously ruining our chances with women and is
counter-productive. If the lady is interested in the guy, she will
display certain signs. If she is not, then she is not. No matter
what you do, she will never be interested in you. Period.
Men need to learn to read signs of interest. When you see the red
man on the traffic light, you do not cross the road. When you see
the green man, you cross. Men are crossing even when the red man is
on. It’s suicide, my fellow brothers. Here are some green signs you
can rely on to gauge her interest in you.
Before you approach her, you notice that she is repeatedly looking
at your direction and checking you out. Some girls who are shy or
nervous might resort to stealing glances instead. When you approach
her to initiate small talk, her eyes seem extra bright and she’s
all smiles. Some of them will try very hard to contain their high
interest in you but it will show through their nervousness. When
talking to her, the conversation is flowing freely. Her responses
are NOT short or one word answers or utter silence. After 5-8
minutes of small talk, you ask her for her number. She gives it to
you WITHOUT hesitation. She doesn’t come up with some stupid excuse
like “Why don’t you give me your number instead”, “I don’t have a
phone”, “I don’t even know you well”, “We’ve only spoken for 5
minutes”. The list goes on, but I think you guys get the drift
here. As long she does not give you her number, she has absolutely
no interest in you. It’s time to move on to the next girl! On very
rare occasions there might be exceptions, but she will still offer
some other contact alternative such as email address with
enthusiasm and without you asking for it.
When you ask her out for a specific date, such as Tuesday 8pm
Marina Square Starbucks, she agrees or counters with another
specific date and time if she cannot make it on your proposed date.
If she does not counter with another specific date and time, it’s a
sign of lack of interest in you. It’s time to delete her number and
hustle other girls. If she agrees and subsequently breaks the date
on the actual day few hours before with some stupid excuse like her
sister is giving birth and she needs to be at the hospital, it
means lack of interest. It’s time to delete her number and hustle
other girls. The exception is when she breaks the date DAYS IN
ADVANCE and counter offers another specific date and time to make
up for it.
When you finally meet her on the actual date, her eyes are still
bright and she’s still all smiles. Conversation is still flowing
freely. She will tend to ask you a lot questions that are too
personal for a friend. Do note that she should not be asking you
questions in an interrogative manner. You will know because it will
feel like you are being grilled by the police at Criminal
Investigation Department. She laughs at your corny jokes. She does
NOT offer to pay for her own share of drinks/food. She will create
chances to accidentally touch or bump into you. She mentions the
future with you included. Like “I had fun, hope to see you again”
or “My favorite band is playing next Saturday, would you like to
come with me to watch them perform”.
If you are getting none of the green signs and full of red signs,
you better get out of there and start hustling other women. NEVER
invest your heart, time, money or energy with a woman who is not
interested in you.
