Men are always going too heavy too fast too soon. That’s the
biggest complaint from women today. In so doing, men come across as
desperate and too available, which is a major turn off to
women.
So at what pace should men go and who dictates that pace? Ever
since Adam and Eve, men have always been the aggressor. Men
approach women. Women almost never have to or never want to
approach men. Why would they want to put themselves at the risk of
rejection when men are already doing it anyway? If she ever wants a
guy, she will choose to flirt instead and get you to do the dirty
work of approaching. That’s how it is in most societies, whether we
like it or not, that is the reality. So by default, women have been
given the choice of accepting versus rejecting and also the choice
of setting the pace in any pursuit.
Since only the woman herself will know when she is comfortable to
shift gears, we have to go very slowly with them. Patience is the
key. When you are able to be patient with them, they will find you
different from the rest of the other guys who are always going too
heavy too fast too soon. Patience will set you apart from the
competition. Let the rest of the guys rush in, turn the woman off
and get dumped. We will not attempt to shift gears unless given
cues to do so. Women will seldom tell men directly to go faster but
they definitely show signs or behave in certain manner to hint to
us she is ready to take things to the next level. When we receive
those hints, she is indirectly approaching us to take things to the
next level. The choice is now ours to make and the tables are now
turned. If you have yet to realize by now, love is a power play. In
order for the relationship to last, men have to come out stronger
in the power struggle because women are subconsciously looking for
leaders in their men.
So specifically, how should we go about this whole idea of patience
and playing it cool in the beginning stages of dating? First and
foremost, always wait five to nine days to call after you have got
her number and between dates. Most guys predictably call within two
days. But you are a cut above the rest. Secondly, you will only
give her a call between Sunday to Thursday and ask her out for a
date between Sunday to Thursday. In other words, never call her on
a Friday or Saturday and never ask her for a date on Friday or
Saturday. What’s the big deal with Fridays and Saturdays? These two
days are only reserved for that special someone. She has yet to
attain that status yet. You are always busy on Fridays and
Saturdays, regardless of whether you are busy. Get the drift?
By the 4th to 7th date, she will ask you why you don’t ask her out
for Fridays or Saturdays, this is supposed to happen if her
interest in you has been increasing since the first date. Her
interest should be on the rise if you have not done anything to
turn her off since date one. When she asks that question, that is
her first indirect approach. Ask her why going out on Friday or
Saturday is important. Act dumb and make her reveal her feelings
for you. If she refuses to, just continue taking her out on the
other days. Only take her out on a Friday or Saturday when she asks
you to.
By the 8th to 12th date, she will ask you where the relationship is
going. In other words, she is asking you whether you want her to be
your girlfriend and make the relationship exclusive. When she asks
that question, ask her “Are you asking me to be your
boyfriend?”
