But with Valentine's Day looming, I will say this about the
matter:
IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore man, expenditure does not equal
romance, even though Singapore girls are stupid enough to think
so.
Just because a guy lavishes things on you this one day a year,
it doesn't mean that yours will be a lasting love.
Indeed, a great splashing out of money is the last refuge of the
thoughtless lover, who can think of no other way to express his
feelings for his sweetheart.
If you're thinking that your man isn't romantic because he
hasn't booked an entire restaurant and hired a limousine for
Valentine's Day, here's something wrong with you, not him.
What keeps a building standing is its foundation, not its
decorations.
IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore man, Valentine's Day is a nonsense
occasion, founded on disinformation and fostered by a greetings
card industry that sees it as its second-best card selling day of
the year behind Christmas.
What is Valentine's Day, anyway? We don't even know who St
Valentine was. Many martyrs were named Valentine, and up until 1969
the Roman Church recognised 11 different Valentine's Days.
According to Wikipedia we began to associate February 14th with
love because of a poem by Chaucer, in which was written:
For this was on seynt Volantynys day
Whan euery bryd comyth there to chese his make.
Newsflash: birds don't mate in February in England because it's
way too frigid. Our belief that February 14th is somehow a day of
romance is therefore as baseless as the idea that Christ was born
in December.
I challenge any girl to give me a sound reason why she should
receive flowers or chocolate on February 14th.
And I realise that being so rational about Valentine's Day makes
me sound unromantic, but since when does romance have to conflict
with intellect?
Sentimentality, tenderness and unabashed expression of affection
can all be squared with the logical brain, but people who believe
in Valentine's Day are the sort who believe in horoscopes - the
sort who silence the rational voices in their head.
IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore man, even if we accepted Valentine's
Day as a genuine occasion to mark our love for someone, why is it
always the guy's responsibility to plan the romantic evening?
Women want suffrage, equal rights and equal opportunity, but are
somehow less vehement about wanting equal responsibility.
Since the opposite has been posed here, I think it's fair to
pose the flipside question: is the Singapore woman
romantic?
IN DEFENCE OF the Singapore woman, she isn't alone in thinking
that Valentine's Day is something special.
The Girlfriend is a foreigner, and she got mightily upset with
me for planning a three-day bike ride over the upcoming weekend
(without consulting her), which meant I would be missing
Valentine's Day with her.
Then again, she didn't think I was being unromantic - just
thoughtless.
To her credit, she eventually calmed down, and didn't do what I
thought she was going to do to me, which was this:
Since I've grown rather attached to my head, you can bet that
won't be happening again.
