The Sagittarius Man
This elusive and fascinating creature can often be spotted either
by his tendency to gesticulate wildly or by his tendency to tell
very funny stories. Often he'll do both. But one of the things
which virtually exudes all over from Sagittarius is his sense of
dramatic irony.
You'll often find that the Sagittarius man does his traveling and
his wandering on a mental level rather than a physical one. They
are often the apparent intellectuals of the zodiac, devouring
books, absorbing all forms of knowledge like tasty meals. But
Sagittarius isn't an intellectual in the sense that Gemini is; he's
not prone to analyzing with a fine-toothed comb all the bits of
information that come into his head. He's much more intuitive, and
more interested in relating fields of knowledge than in dissecting
them. And his mind is speculative - whether it's about philosophy,
literature, the arts, or the stock-market.
For him, this life of the mind is much more important than what he
eats for dinner. In fact, he'll often forget to eat. The
Sagittarius man has a peculiar habit of getting involved,
particularly in the earlier part of life, with rather maternal and
earthy women who see his absent-minded and endearing quality ('The
poor dear, he's so brilliant and he can't even remember to change
his shirt.') and immediately feel they need to take care of him.
Now, what he doesn't need, repeat, doesn't need, is to be taken
care of. Yes, of course, he'd live in a pigsty without you, and his
clothes would be rumpled, and his hair needing cutting, but if you
do all these things for him he'll not only grow to resent it in
time, he'll also never get to do it himself. Besides, he might not
particularly care. Sagittarius, like the other fiery signs, is
often attracted to the earthy signs - Taurus, Virgo,
Capricorn.
And the Sagittarian man with an earthy partner will, for a time,
certainly allow her to become the symbol of steadiness, stability,
reliability. If you're cast in this role, try to stop playing it
right at the beginning, not at the end. It's a tragic mistake that
occurs regularly in Sagittarian relationships. You can't mother him
until he grows up. For one thing, growing up in his terms means
something different from growing up in yours. For earthy people,
maturity is synonymous with taking responsibility in the tangible
world. For fiery people, maturity is seeing, knowing,
understanding. By earthy terms, Sagittarius will never wholly grow
up; nor should he. And all that careful mothering and shirt-ironing
which is usually aimed (secretly) at binding the dashing, wandering
soul to you for all eternity, is likely to backfire in a bad way.
Sagittarius, for all his longing for earth and steadiness, needs
ultimately to find it in himself. And the less responsibility you
take for him, the less resentful you'll be, and the more relaxed
he'll feel, and the better the future for you both.
Not that you're to blame. The archer is a stimulating and exciting
and dynamic man, and his fleet-of-foot quality, that tantalizing
quality of free self-expression and untamed vision, makes him
terribly appealing particularly to women who long for a little
excitement and adventure in their lives. And there's no doubt that
Sagittarius' adventurous soul is guaranteed not to bore you. But
try to find adventure and excitement in yourself first, please;
then you're likely to enjoy him and his vision much, much more. One
of Sagittarius basic approach to life is to laugh at it; after all,
what's so serious when you really think about it? You have to have
a sense of humour yourself; otherwise you won't understand at all
what he's laughing at, especially when he laughs at you.
Sagittarius can sometimes be a terrible tease, and he's not averse
to taking a sly little poke at anyone who carries too much
seriousness or pomposity. Fortunately this not very endearing
quality is balanced by the fact that he can laugh at himself,
too.
The Sagittarian man's biggest problem in relationships is making
the dreaded bridge between romantic fantasy and fleshy reality. For
many archers, it's just too big a gap, and they never succeed in
bridging it. Living in the fantasy world, if you've got the money
to support it, is the only recourse for this kind of Sagittarian.
Some archers despair, and feel they'll never achieve a successful
relationship, so they roam through life leaving a trail of broken
affairs behind them, unfinished business, unpaid debts, unlived
life. The fear of failure here is as big as the fear of material
failure to the Sagittarian. After all, what was Jupiter trying to
prove? Behind the often contemptuous and ironic attitude which many
Sagittarian men have toward love and commitment, you'll often find
a frightened child who's afraid his romantic world will be smashed.
The child can build a pretty big cynical wall around himself. He
can arm himself with a stunning array of quips, jokes, and nasty
asides which makes you think he has no heart. But inside, he's a
child. Don't fall for it.
Sagittarius has a heart of gold. It just bruises easily.
Eventually, he learns that the idea is to reach the first goal
first. And trust and friendship are the guideposts that help him on
his way. He can offer these in abundance himself, and he truly
deserves them in exchange.
