Is he having an affair?

last SG · 2007-08-30T14:59:33+00:00

Me again. My husband rejected my calls. And never replied my msg i just tot, what is he doing until this late i mean now is thursday, he spouse to home ear...

de_middle SG

i would think at least once a week should be ideal Very Happy

elindra SG

What is your husband working as?
If he is an executive, it is common and normal to work late till 9.30pm at times.

From what you wrote, can I safely say that you are a housewife?
Maybe you should start taking classes etc so that you won't be so lonely at home because the mind does wander if you have nothing to do

BadzMaro SG

exactly.. the mind wanders off.

While the man busy work , thinking about money , jobs , toys...

i think TS stays home n thinks too much ? Rolling Eyes

juz4you SG

Hey middle, thanks for the comments.

well we've been married for most 1 year, and yes it's getting sucks

storywolf SG

Hello juz4you,

Think you think too much and the advice from your friend are nuts !!! It will make things worst !!!

Think woman !!! If he want sex - he does not need to marry you, he can go geylang everynight have a few round every night !!! he marry you is not for sex ! You listen to your friends keep thinking of sex in your mind - no wonder - your husband see you also run !!! Put yourself in his shoe work so tired and stress come back - still have to face and fight off a sex hungry and desperate wife ..... think !!!

Sometime jobs can be very stressful... what he may really want is from a wife is to just do the basic , let him have a simple meal, bath and sleep ... if you keep thinking and trying more ... gal you just making things worst .

Why don't you just cool down and stop listen to friends ... just give him want he need for a while and see ... maybe that what he needs at the moment ...

juz4you SG

hi elinda,
he's working at Bank, as PFC (Personal Financial Construction)
any information about it? Razz
Well im thinking to take a class, but he seems dont like it. So i dont even dare to talk more about it Sad

theSquelch SG

juz4you: have you spoken to your family about this, what did they say? are they supportive of you?

alfagal SG

he has a high demanding and sales job
no sales = no money...
need money = need more time at work to find more leads..
more leads doesnt mean close case...
when leads come = need time again to make it as a sale closure.

some pple i know...work 7days a week, to keep in run for the targets..

if one doesnt perform, chances are, bank cld ask him to leave.

juz4you SG

hi squelch, Smile
i dont even dare to talk about this to my family, which family that you talk about, i dont have friends and family in here Sad

theSquelch SG

i'm talking about your family. so you are a foreigner?

de_middle SG

i hope at least he tells you what's bothering him.....guys who dun talk much can be really dangerous. So do try to strike a conversation asking him how his day was.....go for a trip together.

Make it a point to try to resolve, i hope u do succeed & wish u all the best Wink

juz4you SG

Well yes, im a foreigner.
no, i dont dare to tell m' what happen Sad

waliao SG

First thing first... get a hobby or more frens... ur hubby needs time to build his career.

elindra SG

Personal Financial Consultant?
Sounds like a Personal Banker to me with a more fanciful name
Btw Personal Bankers have a very stressful job and they have targets to meet
It's normal to work past 10pm too

Looks like he is under a lot of stress.

I dunno maybe you should just talk to him about it
I mean he is your husband and won't eat you up
At this rate you will stay at home and your imagination starts to wander and thinks he is cheating on you when it is honestly work

juz4you SG

Thanks for JIAYOU me middle,
i really love him, but sometimes he really shake me off, he make me affraid of him Sad
Well, that's also what i think. Sometimes i just scare of something will happen, cos he never share with me, what's going on with he's day Sad

elindra SG

Why are you afriad of him?
He hits you?

If he yells coz you ask tell him you are asking coz you love him
And as a concerned wife you just wanna know to try to share his burden
Plus, is there even a need to yell

juz4you SG

hyum...
Is it? okay elin, thanks Smile
Wish me luck, i'll try to talk to him more Smile thanks

Short Ninja SG

Having one or not is not the problem.Your marriage is.Pick a good time to have a heart to heart talk with your husband cuz maybe he is under some kind of work stress or something.Give him some space if thats what he needs....although I must say one week without sex for a newly wed is pretty unusual.If space is what he needed you have already given him the size of Canada> Laughing In the meantime stay happy and positive about your partner.

theSquelch SG

maybe this is really all that he wants you for, you just didnt know it before, until you married him and moved here.

elindra SG

Think about it this way
My husband works shift
And due to the weird hours he works
He is sleeping when I'm going to work and gone when I'm home
Or I just see him for a while like 1 or 2 hrs for dinner and he is off to work
We can only really spend time with each other is during his off day and if I'm not working late.

What do the both of you do during weekends?
Do you guys spend time together and do stuff together?
How is he like during the weekends?

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