What is swinging?
Swinging is a form of recreational social sex between consenting
adults, most commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting
other male/female couples for sex and/or ongoing intimate
friendships
In the 21st century it is more important than ever that swingers be
entitled to choose their own lifestyle without persecution. The
social system has been shaped by history, creating a changing set
of expectations considered "normal". We have been influenced by
changing social orders in an age in which the pressures to conform
to former norms are being seriously questioned. The ideal of
romantic marriage provides a model where the marital partners have
exclusive sexual rights to each other and the duty to satisfy each
other's physical and emotional needs. Many marital partners
experience disenchantment when this perfect ideal fails.
Most people are critical in their perceptions of the world and wish
desperately to enlarge the boundaries of their lives. Swingers are
just such people. Swingers are members of a group that is actively
seeking changes in stereotyped attitudes toward differences from
outdated traditional values. Many have undergone positive changes
in their own attitudes toward themselves, their partners and
others. They have taken the opportunity to be free to choose to
behave in ways, which were restrained from past conditioning. As
adults we have not been free to choose an alternative lifestyle
without being subjected to destructive responses from the majority
of people in society, family, friends, neighbors etc.
Adults have the potential for creating various relationship forms
where they can achieve mutual support, fulfillment of love and
fellowship needs. It is important to evaluate this form of human
relationship {swinging} by the caring nature of the responses they
offer to others who engage in their lifestyle, rather than by the
physical pleasures they take.
Respect for different relationship choices demands a great deal
more internal character on the part of adults than most have. To
overcome the pressures, set out by the moral fundamentalists and
our own lying families, to conform to their traditional
expectations is overwhelming. It is always easier to blend in by
accepting cultural expectations than to "rock the boat" and be an
individual with opposing beliefs. Unaware that their reactions to
the unknown are anchored in their pre-programmed childhood, causes
a terrible dilemma for the adult. Only through serious
self-exploration can we find a mind set not influenced by others
personal agendas. What do they say, "Only the strong survive"? Well
in this case only the strong of mind prevail in marching through
the pit of the status quo and locating the tranquility the swinging
lifestyle offers and will continue to offer into the next
millennium.
