Sometimes ago I went public with a rather unusual and
humiliating experience in Thailand in regard to female sex tourism.
During our Thailand holidays my farang girlfriend actively looked
for Thai guys and was finally bedded by a young Thai lover.
I initially intended to find out, to how many other farang males
something similar happened, either if their girlfriends went alone
to Thailand or they even travelled even together with their farang
boyfriends, like in my case. From the partially very abusive
and insulting reactions I understood, that I probably touched a
total taboo subject. Others readers doubted my experience at all.
It is a tables are turned situation in a country, which is by some
considered as a sex paradise for male Westerners only. Today, I can
only conclude that my case is a real rare one, or it happens much
more often but the humiliated farang males felt so demeaned, that
none ever talks openly about it.
Nevertheless, I still believe that I am probably not they only
farang, who had to accept to share his girl with a Thai competitor,
or otherwise lose her. Therefore I try again to start a
discussion on this taboo subject and hope for some more serious and
honest replies: As a student from Germany I visited Thailand
together with my girlfriend some
years ago for the first time. Claudia and I were together for three
years and she never cheated on me nor did I on her. She is a good
looking girl and rather conservative minded. But already during our
initial visit I recognized how much she was fascinated by young
athletic Thai guys. On the other hand she became extremely jealous
when I dared to have a quick look at Thai girls or any other
females.
However, probably women’s sexuality must be stronger than a
conservative mind set: During our second visit she admitted having
sexual fantasies about Thai guys, which I had already suspected for
some time! Once having ousted her fantasies and when she realized
that she rather provoked a depressed reaction on my side than an
outrage, I was totally surprised how she kept pushing on with her
”ideas” with great stubbornness…to let them finally become reality!
Only later Claudia admitted that she would not have had dared to
ever tell me again her fantasies, would I have reacted outraged.
But my reaction obviously boosted her self-confidence to try to let
her fantasies come somehow true and not to bury them under feelings
of shame and guilt. From this point onwards something changed
between us: From day to day she showed more and more openly her
interest in Thai men …obviously interpreting my embarrassing
helplessness to cope with the situation as silent consent (…which
it was not!). There was less and less hiding of her sexual desires
and no more false excuses for me…
I do not like to reveal all the details, they are embarrassing
and I know, a lot of farang and Thai guys will laugh at me, when
reading this report. Anyway, after a week or so she was mentally
ready to make an approach. Claudia persuaded me to join her out to
some boys bars, ..driven by her desire, but still hesitating. After
long lasting and luring eye-contact with young Thai guys, it seemed
to me that they quicky understood, what the young farang lady was
after but were irritated by my presence. I hated it to see all this
youngster queuing for Claudia and asked myself, if they are more
greedy for her body or our holiday bugdet. It took two or three
nights more and instinctively we both new that my escorting her had
became obsolete. She finally became confident enough to roam alone,
but always came back early.
It was some days later, when she got a call on her mobile while
we were spending the afternoon at our hotel pool at the Golden
Palace Hotel, off Sukhumvit Road in Bangkok. She became very
exited…and after a while asked me into my face, if I can live with
the fact that she intends to date a Thai boy that night, whom she
met a night before. I was very jealous but I saw in her eyes how
extremely exited she was to date the guy and we both knew
well…tonight it will be for paid sex. I asked her ’Claudia, are you
really sure…?!’ She swallowed and nodded silently and said
‘Rainer….it has nothing to do with you….it is simply…’.
She intended to take the Thai boy out for some romantic dinner
and then come back to the Golden Palace Hotel. She as well as I
felt more secure to let it happen in our place, rather then in some
unknown seedy place. At the Golden Palace Hotel we were sure that
outward guests are all registered, when staying in a guest’s room.
On the one hand Claudia wanted to have her first experience with a
young Thai stranger in secure, comfortable and familiar
surroundings, but on the other hand, she wanted me to be safely
excluded and not to spoil in any way what was meant to be her
perfect sex. (Later she admitted that she was at this time very
insecure, if I, in the end, would not lose my temper and do
something stupid, respectively totally freak out in the hotel
floors once after I have realised that she is naked on the sheets
with the Thai guy!). Strange enough, instead of my burning
jealousy, I simply assured her that I will respect her
privacy…probably instinctively sensing that my girlfriend was
expecting me to no longer be an obstacle to her very special sexual
desire. I surrendered to the inevitable situation and hoped all
will be fast forgotten after a one night stand, what will hopefully
satisfy her desire for good.
Before she went out that evening Claudia rented a second room on
another floor for the remaining time in Bangkok without revealing
the room number to me. Later that night we left together the Golden
Palace Hotel, turned from Soi 1 on to the Sukhumvit Road. In a
pharmacy near Siam Square Claudia bought the obligatory condoms. A
guy at the counter gave us a dirty smile and said in bad English:
“You have fun…!” I thought desperately jealous ‘….for some lucky
Thai penis!’ We stepped out into the warm air of a busy Bangkok
night.
She checked again nervously her own room key, and the condoms in
her handbag. There was something like a ‘oohh, please
understand!’ in her eyes when she hugged me and gave me a hasty
kiss. Then we separated. ‘There goes my girl, ‘… to meet her
date…,’ I thought.
I sat frustrated in one of the cinema complexes at Siam Square
and then spent a poor night in an empty double-bed, not daring to
imagine what was happening behind one of the doors on an upper
floor. I never asked my girlfriend what she paid for the ‘service’
she received. (Claudia remained silent on those nights and I
finally respected her privacy).
After a sleepless night, I went down to the breakfast room and
passed by the reception. The two Chinese guys of the night shift
saw me approaching stopped immediately talking and were extremly
polite to me, but when I just left the reception on to the yard
they started giggling and I had the suspicion they were amusing
themselves on my expense.
I entered the breakfast room and saw Claudia with her new lover
at a table. I will never forget how pleased and satisfied she
looked, when our eyes first met incidentally. The very attentive
Thai guy next to her was relatively tall. I remember how his black
hair fall over his forehead and covered one of his eyes. The
other one was aggressively watching me.
They let me approach, looked at each other, then Claudia and the
Thai gave me a humiliating smile and invited me to join breakfast
at their table. The young Thai was clever enough to immediately
exploit my insecurity and weakness, when he touched my girlfriend
openly in front of me and watched her enjoying his hand on her
naked leg. He managed to shatter the rest of my self-confidence and
within hours he suffocated my last resistance. What I hoped to be a
forgettable one night stand turned out to become a take over of my
girl for the remaining holidays. He made it absolutely clear that
he would stay in the ‘driver’s seat’ for the rest of our holidays,
having good sex and being paid for it by a farang girl! On the
other hand I understood from Claudia that she somehow enjoyed the
macho-behaviour of her non-western exotic lover and
that the Thai showed no respect whatsoever for the fact that I had
been her boyfriend for so many years. Claudia spoke to me for a
long time and tried to convince me that it is really only a sex
affair with the Thai. She tried to comfort me but was also clear
that he will bed her exclusively. Eventually I retreated
fearing to lose my girl and his aggressivness towards me
decreased.
The winner takes it all!
Later I assisted Claudia to move her remaining cloths from our
room to her new room. The Thai was in the bathroom showering.
I saw his and her cloth scattered all over the carpet, the toilette
paper on the side table and the bed sheets in total disorder. I
remember how I swallowed and until today I imagine how they
undressed, how he got on top of her and started thrusting my
moaning girl.
It happened all so fast that after the holiday I was emotionally
struggling for a long time. After our return Claudia did not cheat
on me and proved that she was, after all, only interested in hot
sex with a young Asian. Occasionally she still sends him some
money, but I can live with this. Today I am still together
with Claudia and we have engaged. We are honest enough to each
other to accept that she will go out again to look for a suitable
partner, if we ever go to Thailand again.
Apart from trying to start a discussion on the subject of female
sex tourism in Thailand it is for me important to send this report
to all those, who still believe that:
1. Asian guys are unable to satisfy farang ladies because
of their again and again repeated “myth of smaller penis size”
,
2. who still believe that women sexuality is restricted to
certain pattern / types. Claudia overcame her shyness…and
finally did only that openly, what many girls, housewives, etc.
might secretly think: To enjoy a tropical night with a perfect
lover with no regrets.
Rainer