TeNDreAmzz,PLs read no 5....
Ten Commandments for Peace of Mind
1. Do not interfere in others' business Most of us create our
own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so
because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the
best way, our logic is the perfect logic, and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right
direction, our direction. This kind of attitude on our part denies
the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of
God, for God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two
human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or
women act the way they do because they are prompted to do so by the
Divine within them. There is God to look after everything. Why are
you bothered? Mind your own business and you will have your
peace.
2. Forget and forgive This is the most powerful aid to peace of
mind. We often nurture ill feeling inside our heart for the person
who insults or harms us. We forget that the insult or injury was
done to us once but by nourishing the grievance we go on excavating
the wound forever. Therefore it is essential that we cultivate the
art of forgiving and forgetting. Believe in the justice of God and
the doctrine of Karma. Let Him judge the act of the one who
insulted you. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forget,
forgive, and march on.
3. Do not crave for recognition This world is full of selfish
people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motive. They may
praise you today because you are rich and have power but no sooner
you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and start
criticizing you. Moreover, no one is perfect. Then why do you value
the words of praise of another mortal like you? Why do you crave
for recognition? Believe in yourself. People's praises do not last
long. Do your duties ethically and sincerely and leave the rest to
God.
4. Do not be jealous We all have experienced how jealousy can
disturb our peace of mind. You know you work harder than your
colleagues in the office but they get promotions, you do not. You
started a business several years ago but you are not as successful
as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. Should you be
jealous? No, remember everybody's life is shaped by his previous
Karma that has now become his destiny. If you are destined to be
rich, not all the world can stop you. If you are not so destined,
no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming
others for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere, but
will only give you restlessness.
5. Change yourself according to the environment(适者生存) If you try
to change the environment single handedly, the chances are you may
fail. Instead, change yourself to suit the environment. As you do
this, even the environment, which has remained unfriendly for you,
will mysteriously appear to be congenial and harmonious.
6. Endure what cannot be cured This is the best way to turn a
disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous
inconveniences, ailments, irritations and accidents that are beyond
our control. We must learn to endure them cheerfully thinking, "God
will it so, so be it". God's logic is beyond our comprehension.
Believe it and you will gain in patience, in inner strength, in
will power.
7. Do not bite more than you can chew This maxim should be
always remembered. We often tend to take more responsibilities than
we are capable to carry out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know
your limitations. Spend your free time on prayers, introspection
and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind, which
make you restless. Fewer the thoughts, greater is the peace of
mind.
8. Meditate regularly Meditation makes the mind thoughtless.
This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it.
If you meditate earnestly for half an hour every day, you will tend
to become calm during the remaining twenty-three and a half hours.
Your mind will not be disturbed as much as before. This will
increase your efficiency and you will turn out more work in less
time.
9. Never leave the mind vacant An empty mind is devil's
workshop. All evil deeds start in the mind. Keep your mind occupied
in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a
hobby. You must decide what you value more - money or peace of
mind. Your hobby, like social work may not always earn you more
money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement.
Even if you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy
reading or mental chanting of God's name (japa).
10. Do not procrastinate and never regret Do not waste time in
wondering "should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months and years
may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan
enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings.
Always remember God has His own plan too. Value your time and do
things. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can
rectify your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and
worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes but do not
brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET! Whatever happened was destined
to happen only that way. Take it as the will of God. You do not
have the power to alter the course of God's will.
Why cry?
