Resolving Misunderstanding

zzzzland SG

How would you (try to) resolve a mis-understanding with your partner??

1) Go into cold war with your partner & wait for him/her to admit defeat (ie. apologise)
2) Apologise to your partner (no matter who is actually at fault)
3) .....

Hershey SG

Well at first i will apologise to him regardless to whoever fault it is…but then it was a wrong way to solve problem. Now i will try to solve the problem by talking it out with my partner. If he does not do anything about it, I will just give him the cold shoulder till he finally realises that he is in the wrong and apologises to me. And if i am seriously in the wrong, I would apologise…well in a relationship one must often give and take. That way you can maintain it.

Joylet SG

duh~ .. since it's a misunderstanding, then no one is at fault .. so there's no need to "claim fault".

[This message has been edited by Joylet (edited 18 June 2002).]

CloneMe72 SG

Originally posted by Joylet:
duh~ .. since it's a [b]misunderstanding, then no one is at fault .. so there's no need to "claim fault".
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JoyDa is getting wiser by the moment siah.
Never ever put misunderstanding in black & white (never put it to heart). Cause misunderstanding can be cleared.

CloneDa - Cogito, ergo sum.

annna SG

communication very impt to keep a relationship going on strong..
something goes wrong then mus talk it out.. n try to resolve... n the willingness to change is also very essential... if not talk until wells dry, earth become square also no use. its not easy to maintain a relationship.. especially if u love that person so much. basically if u dun love the person that much.. u wont be bothered ...

sensen SG

hm.. to wat i think who is in the wrong which cause this quarrel. If i am in the wrong i will apologised. If my partner dun realise or dun really admit i wil tell him off and wil not talk to him till he say sorry and admit.

And even communication wise is really impt in relationship, but tiime flies and both will not have much to tok about. Some will just hog the phone without saying anything. what the point.

Hershey SG

when time flies, although you all have nothing to talk about, that does not mean that you have to stop communicating. although maybe dun need to whisper sweet nothings, I am sure daily you still have to show care and concern for one another….misunderstandings will always happen, just how one tackle and handle it properly so that it will not go misunderstood that is all….

zzzzland SG

Apologizing doesn't just mean saying you're sorry and forgetting it ever happened. In fact, forgetting will only make the issue more prone to return and infect your relationship. By taking the time to discuss the problem openly and maturely, while always remembering that this is the person you love, a disagreement can surely become a vehicle to help you move on and serve as a learning tool.

Keep in mind that your girlfriend/wife is your best friend. Ask yourself: is this how I would talk to/treat my best friend? Hopefully you'll look at future conflicts differently

Hershey SG

agree to what BM said…do unto others as what you want others to do unto you….apply this to every relationship you have…be it friendship ot love