Of coz, "tong ju" have bad and good points loh.
Agree with all the ladies here, that definitely u all will lose
out. That is no doubt about it. Even, if not due to unprepare
pregnancy. You will hv to live with some gossips, esp if u hv
friends or neighbour who r "sangu liupo". Your reputation will be
affected.
But the agreement to "tong hu" is a 2 person business. When u agree
to "tong ju" with that guy u love, means u hv trust in him that he
won't do anything to u b4 marriage, jus learn abt each other good
and bad habits by staying together.Also it provides u an
opportunity as a training ground to work as a couple to start a
family.
And guys, try not to betray this lady who r willing to "tong ju"
with u. She really trust and love u. If u dun intend to marry her,
please don't agree to "tong ju".
If both parties hv the correct mentality "tong ju" is a gd thing.
But if one party hv bad intention (normally is the guy la...hee..)
then I think it will cause a lots of trouble, heartache and
eventually breakup...b4 leading to marriage.
