Would you love accept someone who is attached ?

sotongs SG

I think the hottest topic in this forum is still talk about love... So I started off my very 1st topic in this forum.

Scenario:

I believe some of you come across such a situation. You meet a girl or a guy. Both of you become very good friends, but just about you are going to make your first move, you found out that someone you are madly in love and want to go after is attached, would you step into other people relationship ? Many of you would say no lah... I'm not this kind of people. But honestly, if you are in that kind of situation, how well can you handle it ?

zzzzland SG

It all depends on fate & some luck (Tian Shi, Di Li & Ren He).

You might have know her for a few years...
but then some new guy in her life actually 'snatched' her away from you..

Jing Shui Luo Tai ...
Bu Deng Yu Xian De Yue!!!

Conclusion:
Let her know abt your feelings over her.
Wish her all the best...
and MOVE ON !!
( Reality is cruel~ )

Easier said than done hor!???

Hershey SG

Well if it for me, I will let the person know that i have a liking for him. But, I will also make it known to him that I will not be a third-party in his relationship. I will definately wish him all the best.(although it hurts!)

Easeir said than done? Not really, happened to me before. Time will heal all wounds and when you look back, u will feel silly and laff it off.

^3rdWatch SG

Never ever become a third party...

But the lines between a third party and the so-called rebound guy/gal nowadays is very close.

If one's very first intention of knowing this guy or girl is to be their girl/boy friend, then one must accept whatever consequences come what may.

But if one were just out to make more friends and somewhere along the line, one's intention changes... DON'T.

As to why... read Joylett's topic on different sex friendship.

Think about the two phrases below... which is the guiding moral in your life.
"Do upon others what you want others to do upon you." Or
"My own happiness is my own concern."

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~CloneMe~
It can't rain all the time.

sOybean SG

If their relationship is good.....just glad that you know her and be a normal friend will do loh...dont step in. But if not good...be a good listening ear to her....who knows one day she will appreciates you

I got to know many ladies that i admire of from different background too. Most common are attached type. Just glad that I knew that they were attached b4 I make any wrong move. There were also other types..but i wont mention them , not really nice

Cheers!

Michiko22 SG

keke..i think for me..i will never go for guys that have girfrds in the 1st place..why create trouble? Itz alwaz good to make frds but you must know when to cross the line when its becums from normal frds to having to like that person...U must alwaz think:
Do i like the person as a frd? Or do i really like the person cos he's handsome or pretty? Or becos every other people lieks him aso? We can love n love a person very easily...Itz just a line of difference..^__^v

mahjong SG

^5 Machiko
dun get too close to gal thats attached.
u will have a hard time to decide wat to do next.
wat for make yourself so stress??
and get into this kind of situation.

Joylet SG

yah lahh MJ u are right lah ...
but horrrr ... but horrrr .... affairs of the heart huh ... difficult to say 1 leh Razz

Cheerio~

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"I love you - those three words have my life in them."

Hershey SG

Yeah cause in love i believe there is no right or wrong.

zzzzland SG

Love is blind...

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they'll love you back! Don't expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart but if it doesn't, be content it grew in yours.

Joylet SG

zzzzland likes to copy word for word from those "famous quotes" horr ...

".... be content it grew in yours. "
U sure?! Will you be contented?

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in love no right or wrong .. but then it is just not right to be a 3rd party in any relationship ...

"do NOT unto others what you don't want others do unto you"

whatever it is, we should try never to be involved in a couple's problem lorr ...
be it good or bad intention

Xavier SG

Not me.. No like to be 3rd party

Tristal SG

wah piangz........ test my EQ ah.....
let me see...... i dun think i will lar.... being the 3rd party also kanna tao yan by many ppl..... juz like i tao yan my fren's bf... he 3rd party step into a wonderful relationship..... den now he scare my fren will also run lion him some day, he everyday send my fren to and from work so as not to let other guys get close to her... jian...

^3rdWatch SG

Joy ah dun rephrase my quote hor.

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~CloneMe~
It can't rain all the time.

Hershey SG

Clone that quote is yours meh?? hmm…..

annna SG

Love its a fair game for all.
be it married or not attached or not. If u managed to get the person's heart, it simply shows 1. she/he not that faithful
2. She/he dun have such a solid relationship with the other half
3. u really attracted him/her more than his/her other half..
4. maybe very simply u two are meant to be together

and many many many reasons..

when u r married doesnt mean u marry the right person or THE ONE.. sometimes when someone comes along then u realized yr mistake.
Marriage is not a permanent binding contract that u two will be together forever n ever n ever n ever n ever n ever.... Ple do change overtime.
basically when u decided to spend the rst of yr life with someone... no one can change that decision.

hmm basically for me, i have stopped looking for love.. so wont go breaK PLE up one loh. haha not that capable also.. hahah finding yr other half isnt the most impt thing in the whole wide world.

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i wish not for love that will break my heart in two;I fervently pray jus for lots of money to come into my way.

Joylet SG

chow CloneDa ... u own the quote meh???

Razz

^3rdWatch SG

Joylett please read the 3rd posting in this topic last few lines...

I don't think you will be waking up early today... hehehehe... Very Happy

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~CloneMe~
It can't rain all the time.

Joylet SG

YAHHHH ... BUT that doesn't mean YOU own the quote worrr !!? get it? *kokz CloneMe head*

U really think you're CloneDa huh?

Razz

[This message has been edited by Joylet (edited 13 May 2002).]

Hershey SG

hahaha jany you dunno meh....CLone wants to make it registered...so that ONLY HE can use it!! Very Happy *Hershey* faster run for cover!!