Ferrying my child isn't pampering, it's bonding & priceless

last SG · 2011-02-17T17:52:36+00:00

Thinking out of the box. You the man!Rainy days got ERP discount bo?that defeat the purpose.

FireIce SG

sch bus nw oso bery asspensive, so parents rather send themselves. the prob is they wanna send rite to the gate, causing jams

Nelstar SG

I thought bonding is possible when you have time to listen to your child and talk with your child?

I thought good communication is when you can maintain eye contact?

Now, driving and maintaining zero eye contact with kids playing in the seats (probably not talking) is bonding?

So public transport cannot bond? I can understand school bus are for students and no parents allowed.

But taxis, MRT, LRT and SMRT/SBS buses cannot bond?

Jialat...

Rock^Star SG

The problem is not so much about the parent sending the kids in the car.

The problem is when parents inconsiderately park anyhow so that their precious little kids would not have to walk so far.

It is also a problem when the parent can't even give the kids freedom to take public transport when they're old enough.

Yeh agreed on the part where they shouldn't park their cars inconsiderately but then it's human nature unless the school liase with the police to do something about it, albeit to a limited extent. So often, singaporeans drop by the roadside to buy papers or just to da pao some hawker food. That causes congestion especially during peak hours?

And on the issue of kids being given freedom to take public transport, that is subjective from family to family. Many families are affluent enough to afford cars and their way of love is to fetch the kids. Every family has a different language of love. Can't fault that.

the Bear SG

love is doing the right thing...

not pampering the child until they don't even know how to take public transport.. that's destroying the child

Rock^Star SG

I thought bonding is possible when you have time to listen to your child and talk with your child?

I thought good communication is when you can maintain eye contact?

Now, driving and maintaining zero eye contact with kids playing in the seats (probably not talking) is bonding?

So public transport cannot bond? I can understand school bus are for students and no parents allowed.

But taxis, MRT, LRT and SMRT/SBS buses cannot bond?

Jialat...

dude, some people work very long hours and whenever they're home, the kid's in a horizontal bed position. Many bring work home to do. Driving and bonding with the kid, I don't see how healthy eye contact and conversation cannot be maintained while driving safely unless one's driving sucks.

Hmm...and public transport? Well if they have a car, who wants to squeeze in crowded SBS buses and MRTs? lol.

Give them a break la :) who are we to tell other families what's bonding and what's not.

Rock^Star SG

love is doing the right thing...

not pampering the child until they don't even know how to take public transport.. that's destroying the child

singapore is small, can't escape from public transport lol. One day they will learn. If you want to train independence for a start, can be done in other ways. Nevertheless, one day they will take public transport for sure, can't escape these basic necessities of life.

the Bear SG

i've seen upper secondary students going to JC who have never taken public transport in their lives...

that aside, bonding over the drive, see lizzy's post.. i'm betting that happens...

still, i'm one of those affected by a bunch of idiot parents parking their cars everywhere causing obstruction to my neighbourhood by blocking up the only road in and out of the whole estate...

it is a mess when it rains.. it takes me about 20 minutes just to drive out of the intersection where they all cluster... and each one will drive up to the gate then let their brat out of their car... multiply that by hundreds of brats, you have a very angry bunch of people trying to get out of the estate to go to work

Genopooh SG

hmm. somethings wrong with the title, it should have been: "Ferrying my child IS pampering,however its bonding and priceless". i've seen many of my friends not having their parents drive them around like chauffeurs but still can maintain a strong family bond. i really hope students won't whine and complain when their parents can't fetch them on a particular day, thats soooo unappreciative

Nelstar SG

Hmm...and public transport? Well if they have a car, who wants to squeeze in crowded SBS buses and MRTs? lol.

Give them a break la :) who are we to tell other families what's bonding and what's not.

About the healthy eye contact, I wonder if you had experience with drivers who miss their turns, stops when in deep conversation. Well, some people can manage. Some people can't. Some have their eyes on the road, and then to listen only parts of the conversation.

I can understand convenience but I believe bonding isn't about whether the car is there or not. It only serves its purpose when comparing to the school bus.

The priceless moments, well, I wonder, does it really justify anything? You can have it when you are walking from carpark to school. Are you telling me that you cannot bond when walking from carpark to school? You cannot have priceless moments there?

So the "bonding" is just an invalid excuse. Of course, if they are talking about time, talking about convenience, distance etc, I can understand their point. Bonding, really doesn't sell. I don't follow your logic that "bonding" is a justification of driving to school.

I am not saying they should not drive. In fact, I never even question their need to drive into school compound. I can cut that slack, but I just wonder what makes bonding so difficult elsewhere outside the car.

Perhaps, maybe in their opinion, bonding only occurs when they isolate their child from others.

ShrodingersCat SG

I don't think ferrying your kids to and from school if they are in the lower primary ages unreasonable.

I see many parents in my estate cycling with their kids sitting behind them on the bicycles, ferrying them to schools this way. The schools are probably slightly beyond walking distance, and school buses are expensive if you need to pay for such a distance. I have even seen a pakcik ferrying his children to school in a bicycle while they sit in an attached 'wagon'! It's simply a utilitarian way of getting ur kids to school safely using whatever tools you have instead of addition cost. I also do think that it is 'bonding' to cycle with ur kids to school EVEN if you don't talk along the way! You don't have to chat to bond!

But I guess the moment people think of parents ferrying their kids to school in a CAR .. then the CAR makes all the difference. Suddenly the kids become pampered children - even if the intention of the parents remain the same.

However, once the kid reaches Upper primary - then its time for him to learn some independence!!

Nelstar SG

I don't think ferrying your kids to and from school if they are in the lower primary ages unreasonable.

However, once the kid reaches Upper primary - then its time for him to learn some independence!!

Some people think walking 50m is far. Some people think walking 1km is okay.

Some people think the child should be independent from 6. Some people think the child should be independent from 16.

Most of the drivers' concern is about the traffic jam due to the cars queuing to enter the school compound when the drivers can just let the little ones drop off by the roadside or a carpark, say a short trip of 15m.

Well, I believe that is more or less their ideal of "pampering" or I assume too much.

Rainy days, it doesn't matter whether you are ferrying a 2 year old or a 30 year old, you will want to drop off the passengers under shelter. (Unless you are "special", you will want drop off your passenger in the rain).

I suppose this is the norm.

ShrodingersCat SG

haha if the issue is not abt ferrying kids to sch but abt drop off and pick up then haha its not the kids who r pampered but the parents who are!!

FireIce SG

the worse is the horning of sch buses and cars, at 7.15am as they block one another
im just glad no pri schs nearby

Rock^Star SG

i think these kind of things can't be helped la.....primary schools crowding up estates with cars. It's really up to the school principal to impose rules like dropping kids at a designated area and they walk in. School marshalls or teachers can be assigned stations outside the school to ensure traffic is smooth and the kids walk to school safely.

And nelstar, i don't buy your theory at all. To each his own and everyone has their own definiton of bonding. Every family has their own language of love. Period.

Derrick Casper SG

if the child alights fast (like <5s) , i dont see a prob lei to the traffic

FBFIce SG

love is the greatest

storywolf SG

you can bond all you want as long as you don't block the damn road !!!

FireIce SG

if the child alights fast (like <5s) , i dont see a prob lei to the traffic

when car reach sch gate, must kiss mummy or daddy goodbye
then mummy or daddy must remind darling to rber to eat during recess, do not play too rough with frens, listen to teacher, do not go near Daniel (the notti kid in class), if not feeling well must tell teacher, this afternoon Auntie Sophia will come fetch at 1.15pm at Gate B, when reach home must bathe first then have lunch, tuition teacher is coming at 3pm, after tt take nap, wait for daddy mummy come back to eat dinner together and 2nite's aikido class is at 8pm........(the end).... then kid climb outta car, take school bag, carry school bag, adjust school bag, close car door. wave bye bye to daddy/mummy............

5 secs mana wu kor leng........

likeyou SG

I read thru ts post again.

I wonder why must talk with your children while driving? Isnt it dangerous esp the concentration is not there on the road?

Why cant ts talk to their children evening time or over the dinner? Are u saying you have no time at all for your children?

I feel that ts is very selfish parent generally.

FBFIce SG

love too can own the whole road outside the school

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