Unclerexy does not need a girlfriend on paper. On theory, if I
do not get a girlfriend now, I stand to save at least $5 to 8k per
year, depending on the profile of the
girl. If I start searching at 35, I can save around $50k, and
this is more than 1 entire year of my salary. Besides, if I start
searching at 35, some girls may be so
desperate, I can get two for the budget of one, i.e. one in
Singapore, one in China assuming that budget airline tickets to
China remain affordable in face of rising
fuel prices.
But uncle has made a decision. After several months of Lunch
Actually dating, Lovestruck, and also trying to know several
Malaysia and China girls from my workplace,
nobody really made me want to settle down.
Still, one day after he got out from workplace and hit
Harbourfront for shopping, he was at Seam Im Hawker Center when a
very strange phenomenon caught his attention.
Along the stretch of Muslim stalls, facing the main road, there
was a Thai hawker stall selling Beef Pad Thai .. Fried Rice.. or
what u got. The counter was a Malay
girl collecting cash, behind the cashier, was a very fair Asian
maiden at the wok, dishing up Thai food at super speed. Very very
energetic.
I walked around for a moment, because I was not hungry, BUT, I
am curious about the girl!
I called home, and my mother say home got cook, so I chose to
head towards the MRT station.. and still.. 1 minute later, gut
feeling took over and I called my mother
and said I am not coming home for dinner.
I went to the Thai stall, the Malay girl go toilet, and I asked
the cook whom I thought she was Chiangmai-ese, whether can I order
Beef Kway Teow without the Beef, and
she replied in a PRC accent, yes you can. I will cook for you,
without the Beef.
A thought flashed across my head that very moment, can we have
marriage without intimacy also? I can get my HDB flat, and you can
get your Singapore citizenship if you
desire.
Still, with CNY the next day, I ate the kway teow without beef,
and I totally enjoyed it. It was just so Bangkok International
Airport, a taste I savour so much since
my first trip to Thailand. It is spicy, hot, sour, and a bit
chaotah. And when I eat with my Teh Tarik from the Malay corner
stall, it had all the elements of love,
including sweetness blended in under $5.
Uncle wants to know the girl, but I do not know what is
forbidding me. It could be that .. I have lost interest in love, I
am finding a girlfriend because I am tired
of searching, and the reason why I search is because life needs
to carry on! My mother needs to feel jealous that she lost a son to
a girl, yet she needs babies sooner
or later to take care of her own emotional needs, I myself have
no inclination to settle down since my career is not on track, YET,
the chinese saying of 成家立业，you
set up the family first, then with the legendary (but
untrustworthy) modern careerwoman supporting you, then you get
yourself a career.
Besides, can you actually trust a China wife? I swear to you, I
think I could. But my mother may not, but u can have the son, I
want the grandson nevertheless. And..
can I actually afford a Singaporean wife in my lifetime?
Something tells me, don't count on it. A Malaysian wife is the best
of breed, with Asian gentleness, and an
occasional education and family background that does not scare
off the ordinary Joe like me. Still, where to find? They are across
the Causeway, but the right one does
not fall from skies.
Still..
.. the fried kway teow from Seah Im hawker center was the best
any under 35 year old woman has cooked for me in the past 10
years.
Love still travels via the stomach huh.
Basically, I think I need help. Typically, I will write a story,
then exchange it at a forum for some generic feelings so that I can
get by another day without a
girlfriend. But then.. social escort cheapest $300 per hour, no
hidden expenses. If I need 1 per month, 12 per year, assuming my
libido does not decrease with age,
that is $3600 per year. And by the age of 35, I would have spent
$18000 on supporting friendly hardware and software companies. And
still, no family to speak of. If I
marry a China girl, then divorce by 35, will I be incur more
debt? Social escort services are not part of the GDP, the
government will not give tax rebates if I choose to support them.
They may even come a time when they will PAY ME to marry a
Singaporean girl when I am 35 and they are left on the shelves.
don't bother to read.