actually i dun get why i shd always give enough to match how
much they spend. i din ask to be invited, i din ask to go to an
expensive place. and it's not like i need to return the favor..
because i held my wedding... only ROM followed by dinner with small
group of family and friends.. that was a few yrs ago. my mum
stopped bugging me to get a chinese wedding dinner... which suits
me fine, because i dun think it makes sense to blow so much money
on just one night (and I dun even think I will enjoy myself, and
I'm sure i dun like the attention), and it doesn't make sense to go
backward now that we have made progress in our marriage ... I want
a wedding?
So, bottom line is i think it's just sad if i need to cough up $
just so people can have their grand weddings which i dun really
care about, (unless it's a close friend), and yet since it's a
colleague i see everyday it's hard to reject and not go... why cant
people be more discriminate in who they invite? it's like they dun
hav anybody to invite, that's why they need to invite so many
colleagues... or because it's perceived as easy money.. wtf
if they invite one of your colleagues but not you, how would you
think?
and if you're so unwilling to pay, then just reject by saying
you got something on that day and can't make it.. no one can force
you to go...