Learn to leave a lasting
impression...
by Jennifer Good
What is small talk? Some define it as meaningless
conversation used to fill empty silences. I prefer to view it as an
opportunity to make a lasting impression with the person you are
talking with. If you're in a social situation where you need to
make small talk, instead of dreading the useless chatter that
usually goes on, strive to make dating contacts with interesting
conversation instead!
Rules of Engagement:
First, avoid the typical conversational drivel that everyone else
uses. Comments about the weather and such are a clear sign you have
run out of things to talk about. Make yourself appear to be an
interesting conversationalist by choosing topics that are of
interest to you and the person you're talking to.
Second, make yourself confrontable. People will be more receptive
to having a conversation with you if you approach them with a smile
and an easy manner.
Above all things, be yourself. There really isn't any point in
getting to know someone if you're not going to reveal who you
really are. It may seem to make the person like you better if
you're pretending to be someone else. But, are they really
interested in you, or who you are pretending to be?
Engaging Their Interest:
Talk about things you know. Don't EVER act like you know about
something that you don't. It is much more embarrassing to be caught
in a lie, than to admit your lack of knowledge on the
subject.
Pick a topic based on a current event. Avoid topics that would
create a heated debate. The point is to make yourself appear more
interesting, not argumentative.
Talk about a new or upcoming move, concert or other event in your
city. These topics are excellent for using as segues to asking for
a date. When a person shows interest in the event, ask if they want
to go with you.
Ask people about their work, hobbies or school. People love to talk
about themselves, so let them!
Closing The Deal:
After a great conversation with someone it is only natural to want
to see them again. Take advantage of this and be sure to ask for a
date or arrange for a future meeting with the person.
