RS Magazine
One morning, nearly 20 years ago, I was lying in bed. It was
late. I was supposed to be working, but I seemed glued to the
mattress. I hated myself for my laziness. And then, by chance, I
picked up a collection of writings by Dr. Samuel Johnson, the
18th-century wit and the compiler of the first comprehensive
English dictionary. In the book were excerpts from a weekly column
he had written called The Idler, in which the great man celebrated
idleness as an aspiration, writing in 1758, “Every man is, or hopes
to be, an Idler.”
This was an epiphany for me. Idleness, it seemed, was not bad. It
was noble. It was excessive busyness that caused all the
problems!
So I got out of bed and started a magazine called The Idler, in
order to remind people of the forgotten, simple pleasures of doing
nothing. I even wrote books about it. And, yes, you could say that
idleness became my life’s work. So, based on all those years of
tough-going research, here are my top tips for people who find it
difficult to just be.
1. Banish the guilt. We are all told that we
should be terribly busy, so we can’t laze around without that
nagging feeling that we need to be getting stuff done. I rejected
my guilt upon learning that Europeans in the Middle Ages felt no
shame for lolling about. Their favorite philosopher, Aristotle, had
praised the contemplative life, and the monks spent a lot of time
just praying and chanting. Guilt for doing nothing is artificially
imposed on us by a Calvinistic and Puritanical culture that wants
us to work hard. When you understand that it hasn’t always been
this way, it becomes easier to shake it off.
2. Choose the right role models. Most of the great
musicians and poets were idlers. So feed yourself a diet of John
Lennon, Oscar Wilde, Walt Whitman, and the like. Carrying a slim
volume of verse in your purse or pocket can be
therapeutic―something from Keats, who wrote of “evenings steep’d in
honied indolence,” or Wordsworth, of course. (What could be more
idle than wandering lonely as a cloud?) It’s delightful to read a
few lines while you’re on a bus or a train, then stare out the
window and ponder their meaning.
3. Sketch a flower. If you are new to idling and
feel compelled to be purposefully occupied, sketching a flower at
the kitchen table can be an excellent way to bring some divine
contemplation into your life. The act of drawing makes you observe
the bloom in a way you never have before. All anxieties fly away as
you lose yourself in close study. And at the end of it you have a
pretty little sketch.
4. Go bumbling. Bumbling is a nice word that means
“wandering around without purpose.” It was indulged in by the poets
of 19th-century Paris. They called themselves flâneurs and were
said to have taken tortoises around on leads, which gives you an
idea of the tempo of their rambles. Children are good bumblers. Try
making a deliberate effort to slow down your walking pace. You’ll
find yourself coming alive, and you’ll enjoy simply soaking in the
day.
5. Play the ukulele. The ukulele is the sound of
not working. My wife hates it for that very reason: The twang of
those strings means that I am not doing something useful around the
house. I keep my ukulele in the kitchen and play it at odd moments,
like while I’m waiting for the kettle to boil.
6. Bring back Sundays. Many religions still
observe a Sabbath, whether it’s Friday, Saturday, or Sunday. And
for a long time secular society embraced Sundays as a day of rest,
too. But now Sundays are as busy and stress-filled as any other
day. Having a day of rest was a very practical idea: We were
excused from all labor and devoted ourselves to pleasure and
family. Take that ancient wisdom to heart and declare at least one
day of the week as a do-nothing day. Don’t clean the house or do
the laundry; don’t get in the car. Stay home and eat chocolate and
drink wine. Be kind to yourself.
7. Lie in a field. Doing nothing is profoundly
healing―to yourself and to the planet. It is precisely our restless
activity that has caused the environmental crisis. So do some good
by taking a break from “doing” and go and lie on your back in a
field. Listen to the birds and smell the grass.
8. Gaze at the clouds. Don’t have a field nearby? Doing
nothing can easily be dignified by calling it “cloud spotting.” It
gives a purpose to your dawdling. Go outside and look up at the
ever-changing skies and spot the cirrus and the cumulonimbus.
9. Take a nap. To indulge in a siesta after
lunch is the most wonderful luxury: It softens tempers and guards
against grumpiness. Yet our culture has decided that naps are for
wimps. A nap is acceptable only if it is called a “power nap”―a
short doze that is supposed to return you to the office with more
energy to kick some ass. But you should nap, not for the profit of
a corporation but for your own health. Research has shown that a
daily snooze can reduce the risk of heart attack. And just knowing
you’re going to sleep after lunch seems to make the morning less
stressful. If curling up in your office isn’t an option, go
somewhere quiet, like a church or a park bench, and close your eyes
for even just five minutes.
10. Pretend to meditate. For us westerners,
meditation is an accepted way of doing nothing. Tell everyone
you’re going to meditate, then go into your bedroom, shut the door,
and stare out the window or read or lie down for half an hour. You
have excused yourself from household tasks and can indulge in
contemplation, reflection, and that underrated pleasure, thinking,
without fear of disapproval.