Blankety Blanks

MayaJade SG

We love blankety blanks. We leave them trailing at the end of our speech, screaming inside pleading the other party to hear, but often they end up as blank as before, a monumental reminder for us not to trust anyone else with our feelings again.

Examples of blankety blanks:

note: P and T after a separation between them

P: Is it okay for me to call you like this? or would you rather I never dial your phone number again?
T: My manager is not around, so I am alone here. It's fine.
P: No, I mean me calling you for you, I wasn't asking about your manager. I don't care about your manager!
T: Oh, it's okay. I'll tell you when I can't take it anymore. Please stop

What a charming life!

lin_chen_chuen SG

Come to think of it, the situation would get even more uncomfortable if the opposite party actually responded to a blankety blank.

Really...the converstation would be much more enlightening perhaps, but more awkward and might ruin things. Hmm.

You know the example given sounds rather specific, P and T instead of the normal A and B. Hmm.

Or maybe you're just very imaginative...Heh.

MayaJade SG

You're right about the enlightenment. More than that, sometimes it's hard to believe that the other party doesn't hear the blankety blanks that are so loud to our own ears. Then it may translate to a growing doubt about the other person's level of care for us.

Or maybe it's just insecure thoughts. Are there anyone who go through life free of doubts? How could they?

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forwards. --Soren Kierkegaard

lin_chen_chuen SG

Actually, I think it creates more problems being more aware of it.

Then again, would you really feel the need to respond to someone else's blankety blank? Or would you even notice it? The reason you notice your own blankety blank, is simply because, it's your own. Hmm. Smile

This section of the forum seems very quiet, hmm...people not feeling creative anymore?
And my need for validation on my efforts in my song thread is sadly unfulfilled, ahwell.

Razz

MayaJade SG

yes, it's pretty quiet here but sometimes the din in chit chat is just noises.
sensing other people's blankety blanks needs a strong sense of perception and it depends on how well one knows the other person. i still disagree, though, that sensing them will create more trouble. I's not that I don't want to say it outloud, I can't. Ignorance may be bliss but I think deception (from false imprssion) creates a tangled web that causes so much heartache in the end.

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Life can only be understood backwards It must be lived
forwards. --Soren Kierkegaard

t|rEd SG

well, adding blankety blanks in our conversion, and choosing not to interprete them are just human nature.

wouldn't it be nicer if everything were as simple as ABC? i mean, y can't we just take the surface meaning of what is being said? in this way, we would probably be freed of those worries which may actually be no worries at all.

life is already complicated enough with out the worries, wat for make it worse with the addition of unnecessary worries?

just my 2 cents worth......

lin_chen_chuen SG

I was watching tv the other day and I just thought : Are the “ah’s” and “hmm’s” in conversation blankety blanks echoing out our insecurity and confusion? heh.

atreiu SG

Took me a while to figure out what in the world is a blankety blank....... Smile

If i'm off by a long shot pls ignore me.... i'm an ignoramus Very Happy here goes...

I know what you mean tIred, it's nice when everyone says what they feel, and say it straight out. Sometimes I wish my frens would too. It's pretty stressful when you have to second guess how the person feels. sometimes i think I'M oversensitive, trying to read into the words that other people say, giving myself extra stress. heehee, bad habit. also i must say i'm guily of blankety blanks. sometimes i want so much for the other person to do something, yet, i'm too.... shy? proud? to ask that person to do it. sigh, sometimes i wish i was more outspoken, more frank with people. i guess ifeel insecure of saying what i want for i fear of ridicule, or people looking at me as if i'm too much or something. sigh..... Sad

off point? sorry.....

t|rEd SG

Atreiu:

actually,u didn't go off point. =) thnx for agreeing with me.

i'm also guilty of blankety blanks too. i think sometimes, it actually acts as a form of protection. for wat, i can't exactly pin point, but guess it's sorta for one's ego...

to tell the truth, i find blankety blanks quite frustrating, but i can't help using them sometimes lo....anyway, they can't be that bad u know? just thought of one good side of a blankety blank. people use it to tell a white lie.....as in when they are supposed to be tactful, they use a blankety blank. =))

[ish] SG

I guess the reason as to why we are so aware of our blankety blanks is probably because we consciously tell ourselves that this is where the blankety blank should be located in our sentence blah blah.. To me, i think it's sorta in our state of mind. Prolly it's because of our sensitivity or insecurities, as such, we try to form the right sentence in our mind and in order not to offend people or embarass ourselves, we add in the blankety blanks. So i guess that's why our friends may not see the blankety blanks when we use it.

I am also guilty of using blankety blanks, especially when i am icqing with my friends. I think the reason being that i can't really see their expression or know their moods for the day and when i get really curious about really personal things i'd start using blankety blanks. Wink

Well, this is what i think about blankety blanks.

lexelle SG

Well...

How true...

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n-ever SG

N: Hey am I upsetting you?
P: Eh. No. I'm just tired. Infact, I'm tired of you. Yes you are upsetting me, you freak!

Sometimes I wish I have more courage...

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