well. i'm 1.64m. used to be very insecure, tried all sorts of
ways to grow taller but to no avail then decided to just resign to
fate. anyway more guys than you think are in the 16X range.
I have a fellow shortie like me who said don't bother and worry
about girls. It makes our choice easier ya?
No one will take a measuring tape and follow you around. In
fact, more often than not, it is ourselves who get affected by this
affliction. Initially, it seems like a curse. You feel like when
you imagine yourself, you feel very very small compared to other
guys. Then you imagine yourself with your potential girlfriend (who
is going to probably shorter than you), like a set of dwarfs. Then
you get turned off by the image, then you think, life sucks. Then
it spirals into more desperation and despair.
I think the key here is to not be affected by it. If you're
affected by it, people can feel it. People who stand besides you
can feel it. (who is the guy who keep trying to 'feel' the distance
between our shoulders?). People who know your life will be able to
feel it more. Though often there might be times of relapses (like
getting rejected because a girl finds you too short or whatever),
you should more often than not, accept whatever that is given. Find
comfort, strength in other areas. If you don't already have one,
find something that you can be extremely good at. Make the taller
guys envy what you have. They might start poking you for height
because they feel undermined. (they always tend to feel they're
going to do better than you for some arcane reason). Don't let it
affect you, just focus on the right things.
Everyone is imperfect. So even if you wished for a few inches more
(I always had this "dream"), the next thing on your wish list is to
have more muscles, bigger biceps, nicer abs etc....then after that
on to the next level. More inches? Perhaps, or maybe then you will
fuss about your face about not being "pretty" enough. There is no
end. I was born with mostly everything (gifted, rich family, not
bad looking etc...), there are countless of people who have told me
if you were 10cm taller you would be really perfect. However, at
the end of the day, it doesn't really matter.
Just my two cents.
