i am a gal, i dun actually know how a guy thinks, and i also
know that friends (guys) jus assured the gal that there's nothing
wrong as they didnt wanna see her too upset.
wat i wanna know and is very curious is,
y did d bf proposed?
y did he reacted the way he did?
y did he seem not even interested in the wedding?
y did he drag so long, and is still dragging?
i can onli see it from a gal's views; the time he proposed, was
the time when there were suddenly many suitors ard the gf, thus to
ensure that she's 'his', he proposed. At that moment, maybe
he really wanted to get married, and at the same time, rid the
bees away. But after a few weeks, he regretted
and started to seem less interested.
As for dragging and not lifting a finger in planning
- i felt maybe it's cos the gf was a very detailed person, so
he jus let her plan instead, but it's wrong, cos which
gal wan to plan their own wedding w/o d groom-to-be ard, it's
= she's jus marrying herself.
I dunno if i am rite in feeling dat way; any guys to help
out? as in answering the Qs?
PS~~ thx thx~~
IMHO, the wedding is but the one of the first steps to a
marriage. If like that also cannot sort out, then the challenges
ahead will be worse... In the future, there will be tasks that
involves several parties (in-laws, friends, whatever...)
in many kind of weird or cliche situations.
I suggest that u shd consider getting marriage counselling (or
something like tt) from ROM first... Dun start off with the wrong
step. Very painful one... Wedding issues can be brought up again
many years later, as a topic for quarrels & comparison.
