i need a honest opinion and feedback... i'm 27 this year and
chinese
when you guys attend a chinese wedding, do you label your names
on the red packets? i mean like normally when you arrive, you'll go
to the reception area, sign in and drop your red packets into those
collection boxes, do you actually label your names at the back of
the red packets?
no one actually taught me to do that... but i was questioned by
my friend who got married and she accused me of not giving a red
packet for her wedding banquet... she said she searched the boxes
but didn't found my name and she had difficulties answering to her
husband who was disappointed that one of her friends turned up
without a red packet. she asked if i labelled my red
packet and i was quite surprised... i said no and i told her
that no one ever taught me to label my name, even my mum
didn't taught me that...
she also said that it's not the money part but as a significance
of congratulation... i did include a photoframe which i gave her
during the wedding dinner but she said she was disappointed that i
gave her that only... she also mentioned that the wedding dinner
was very expensive and asked for my understanding. (it was at
Raffles Hotel and i did dropped in a red packet without my name
labelled behind plus the photoframe)
then she claimed that all her guests labelled their red packets
so next time, when my friend attends their weddings, she will
know how much to put inside the "ang pow".
i would like to ask if it's a practice to label your
red packets for weddings... cos' i was not taught so...
Your friend does not have the sincerity to invite you. Its so
meaningless when they invite you to their wedding just hoping
you'll give them ang pows. I thought ang pows should be given from
the heart and not upon request?
I do have a similar occasion.
While in NS, my platoon sergeant invited the whole company to
his wedding dinner. But months before the dinner, he requested to
collect part of the ang pow money from us. And he really go to each
bunk to collect $40 from his men, joting down the names of those
already made the "1st payment" in a small notebook!
And he said that those who had made the "1st payment", need to
given another $20 on the actual day as a full payment. Which makes
it $60 in total. And those already given $60 in "1st payment", can
give a few more dollars on the actual day.
He claimed that he needed money to pay for his wedding down
payment!
Wah, this kind of people ah... made his wedding truly
meaningless!
As for me, i just gave him $40 and did not attend his wedding
cos i was clearing ORD leave.
