that’s why maybe it’s better to ask your guests not to write
their names on the red packet. instead ask them to write either the
female side or male side. like if the bride is called Veron then
put veron at the back. if the groom is lawrence, then put lawrence
at the back. in this way, you can seperate the red packets for
different family.
this i feel will not create the “you give how much, i give how
much”. if that family is not well to do, how? others give 200 but
they gave 100, you are going to LOOK DOWN on
them? as some mentioned, it’s your wedding where you INVITED them to share your joy, not make money out of it
or try to recouped your cost. if it’s so expensive and you have
difficulties paying for it, don’t hold a wedding banquet, hold a
buffet lunch or dinner. you don’t want to be debt ridden for a
wedding you can’t afford.
end of the day, your friends or family will not remember your
wedding. there are too many to remember. i don’t even remember all
my cousin’s weddings or where it was held. didn’t even give a damn.
why? cos’ it’s not mine.
