After going thru
so much with people, I’ve learnt that the worst investment is
efforts, time and money “invested” in maintaining human
relationships. I’ve read and seen for myself how fragile human
relations are and once broken, it is like a broken vase. Even if
fixed back, there’ll still be cracks and scars, never as good like
before.
Whenever I joined
a new company, I’ve been “pulled” by different colleagues to join
their group/gang. The victim of backstab, will be mouthed until
him/her to no value and only negative things. They told me all the
bad things about this person and that person and to be careful of
them. But when I actually interacted with that “evil person”, I
find that he/she is not as bad as the colleagues bad-mouthed. Maybe
a few character flaws, but who doesn’t have character
flaws?
Read before about
when a person is in a bad plight like bankrupt, all his “so-called
blossom” friends left him, all relatives avoid him like plague.
Then what’s the point of making friends and having relatives? Then
I rather have no friends, no relatives. Which is true as whenever
I’m in trouble, I am my own benefactor. No one has really helped
me.
To those who
begged to differ, saying that friends and relatives are important,
are you really so sure that your so called friends will help you
when in SERIOUS need? Not say buying lunch for you, doing small
things, but making BIG BIG sacrifices!
So far, since
secondary school, I never have any REAL friends. Just hi-bye
friends and my life is still fine. I really felt for those who
spent money, time and efforts to help friends but when they
themselves need their friends’ help, all the “friends” just run
away and leave all the misfortune for himself to
handle.
This is so sad but
true of society. I don’t intend to make new friends and don’t
expect anyone to help me when I’m in trouble. I don’t really need
friends/relatives!!!!
Wrong lor....not everyone is like that.
I also got friends who are just out to take advantage of me, of
course there will be many people like that in our lives.
This is something that everybody will eventually need to learn how
to deal with this kind of common friends. Once you have found your
way to overcome those bad friends and bad relatives, you will
realised that actually all those bad friends are relatives aren't
really important to your life at all. And you might laugh about it
later after you have overcome this unpleasant feeling that's still
surfaced in you whenever you had to deal with those bad friends and
relatives.
But I also got good and close friends and even best friend in my
life. It just takes time to discover them, but once you've found
them...they will be with you till the end of time.
Good friends and potential partner are probably most
difficult to come by, cos they're mixed among all the bad ones.
Maybe this kind of things really need to depend on fate and
destiny.
But don't feel disappointed with yourself and life itself just
because of a few disappointing people in your life. If you compared
those few bad ones with the rest of the world, your life isn't all
that bad afterall you know? At least you still got the rest of the
world who are still interested to be your friends. :)
I also never give up my search for good friends, so I always be
true and kind to everyone I've met. If they disappoint, betray,
take advantage of you, upset you, then so be it and strike them off
your list. I usually don't give second chance cos I know I can
forgive them, but I can never forget them...and it's better not to
meet them again. :)
I believe you will find good friends and future partner
eventually if you are optimisstic. Who knows, your next new friend
might end up being your best friend or even your wife! :)
Press on and never say die hor..............................
