Do you mind if your gf or wife

last SG · 2008-04-25T14:16:23+00:00

i suggest sg men travel and find love than stay in Sg and get stuck with the improper mindset of sg women

Triple_6s SG

Got a friend who is a poly dip holder and his wife holds a masters, his wife earns more than the hubby.. Things goes well in the early years, then slowy they began to face communication problems. After seeing a counselor, both realised what's on each other's mind and fears and worked to resolve it. It saved their marriage.

Personally, if I were to make a choice, I wouldn't mind a wife with a good background. The most impt thing is that we must be able to get our thoughts and ideas across to each other. Everything else is secondary.

playboy_1985 SG

me dun mind.

caleb_chiang SG

No...

Poolman SG

what for mind ???

Very good for the whole family's expenditure .

U should be feeling less stressful than most Sporeans .

Many middle-class Sporean men is the sole bread-winner for the family ... usually they worked like hell , still don't see much savings .

I have seen a Malay man in his early 50's , a wife , with 6 kids , the youngest only 5 years old , the eldest still in Secondary 4 , walan he work like fuck everyday , 24/7 .

Yes 24/7 , day time 8am to 5pm , work as a Guard at Tuas , 6pm to 6am , work as a guard at Teban area .....

He told me he eat , shit , sleep all at work .

Only spending a few hours at home , rarely seeing his kids . He has to go back home at Jurong to get his dirty clothing for laundry . After that , back to work .

His wife take care the children , his job - work work work .

And u are complaining ???

Poolman SG

i guessed u are still young ...

When u gets old , u have to thank God ur wife did earn more than u .

Poolman SG

One of my friend , a very good friend , a very stubborn friend .

Too "Ta Nan Ren Zhu Yi" ...... insist woman shouldn't be working , woman should be at home taking care of kids ....

I ever told him , he must change his mindset , S'pore cannot have this mindset , he don't believe .

Now ???

Expenditure so high , money not enuf ..... he lan lan have to keep quiet about letting his wife go back to working society .

He works as a storekeeper now , from a stable job of a cabby , now only earn $1600/mth , excluding CPF .

Dunno what he thinking , to quit a $3000 cabby's job and work as a storekeeper of $1600 .

I told him why chose a $1600 job ? He said for CPF , he needs to pay $392 each month to HDB , $392 ?

I cannot get his calculation , right !

I told him his job is a joke , $1600 my 2 weeks pay , as a taxi driver .

Stayed in a 3-room flat , owned a weekend car ( now cannot sell ) , only one P1 daughter , smokes 1 packet of Marlboro a day , supporting both non-working parents , wtf , right ? with $1600 and yet insist woman shouldn't be working ???

Thank God my missus working as an accountant !!!

I don't mind at all , i mind if she don't work !!

Karma88 SG

OF course not money more impt LOL

ChoCoChips SG

maybe i wun mind.

but if she earns more than me, sort of gives me the motivation to "out-earn" her?

ahahaha but still too early to say la for me.

jojobeach SG

my gf i met during a theatre show in Melbourne few years ago. thats how it started.

Then she asked me if we can go stead. I also like her before i found out she is a well to do family.

I dont take $$$ from her although she is the one who showered me wih gifts like a car and made me move in with her in her huge home.

We are together for love and not $$$.Its cos of her i am still staying in Melbourne. we spend our time touring Aus and Canada, NZ

Yes I agree..SG guys like you please
, go elsewhere to look for rich girl and be their XBL.

So, your girlfriend give you a car..

A man with a backbone will say "No thanks, I will earn my money and buy one myself."

I pity your parents, they have failed you.

So dude, enjoy it while it lasts.

Do the guys a favor.. keep your braggings to yourself.

Because to us, you are nothing but a gigolo.

Compensation for services comes in many forms, not just cash. So if you still want to insist you are not a paid social escort.... time for you to go back to school.

Yes, and good riddence.

BadzMaro SG

in near future, I will also grow my earning power, then aim before 30 years old become millionaire. Not easy, but not impossible

Nowadays itseasy to become millionaires lo..

If i die , i also become millionaire ma.. a dead millionare n whoever my family or spouse gonna benefit from it. hahaha

jojobeach SG

One of my friend , a very good friend , a very stubborn friend .

Too "Ta Nan Ren Zhu Yi" ...... insist woman shouldn't be working , woman should be at home taking care of kids ....

I ever told him , he must change his mindset , S'pore cannot have this mindset , he don't believe .

Thank God my missus working as an accountant !!!

I don't mind at all , i mind if she don't work !!

Actually, your friend is not wrong.

The mother SHOULD stay at home to take care of the children when the kids are still young , until they go to full day school. Then the mother SHOULD go out and work to supplement household income.

Young children fare better when taken care by their own parent.

Do you have a young child ? Or are your children already teenagers ?

For a cabby to earn $3000 means he must work double shifts. That means he will hardly get to spend much time with his family.

What's the point of having a family when you don't get to enjoy em ?

Unless the mother earns much more than the cost of external help to take care of the children. It makes no sense to pay someone else with her income.

Say she earns $1,500 and take home pay is $1,200 child care costs $1000 , the savings only $200. She might as well just forgo the $200 net income and stay at home to take care of the kids.

Unless the family is so poor that $200 per month is a big deal.. then they need to decide if it is worth the sacrifice.

ChoCoChips SG

Yes I agree..SG guys like you please
, go elsewhere to look for rich girl and be their XBL.

So, your girlfriend give you a car..

A man with a backbone will say "No thanks, I will earn my money and buy one myself."

I pity your parents, they have failed you.

So dude, enjoy it while it lasts.

Do the guys a favor.. keep your braggings to yourself.

Because to us, you are nothing but a gigolo.

Compensation for services comes in many forms, not just cash. So if you still want to insist you are not a paid social escort.... time for you to go back to school.

Yes, and good riddence.

... do u say "No thanks, I will earn my money and buy one myself." if somebody gives u a gift?

BadzMaro SG

actually i believe in woman staying home. i would want my woman to stay home even if she has a masters or whatever. Or if she works , i make sure she takes on those piss easy work. Not much stress involved. N very good working hours.

make it simple just dont work better. She can work for me. At home. lol! in my bedroom ;p

but anyways.. yeah.

ChoCoChips SG

make it simple just dont work better. She can work for me. At home. lol! in my bedroom ;p

but anyways.. yeah.

if she wans to do those stressful jobs leh?

i'd hate to have my lao po go n work too.

jojobeach SG

... do u say "No thanks, I will earn my money and buy one myself." if somebody gives u a gift?

As a courtesy, I only accept small token gifts. Nothing big and expensive and only on my birthday.

If someone gives me something of substantial value.. I will return something else equal or more in value.

BadzMaro SG

if she wans to do those stressful jobs leh?

i'd hate to have my lao po go n work too.

i tell her very simple. NO. or i get my parents to tell her hahah.. she cant say no. Or i tell her parents to tell her n advise her. i am sure the parents wont want thier daughter to work.

jojobeach SG

if she wans to do those stressful jobs leh?

i'd hate to have my lao po go n work too.

So you think being a stay at home mother is not stressful meh ?

You know why some women don't want to stay at home ? And rather go out and work for the meagre money that cannot even pay for nuts ?

Because.. outside.. there is more freedom and social interaction than watching kids and doing house work. That's right.. no poops to clean up, no vomits to wipe. and you don't have 4 walls to keep you company.....

ChoCoChips SG

So you think being a stay at home mother is not stressful meh ?

You know why some women don't want to stay at home ? And rather go out and work for the meagre money that cannot even pay for nuts ?

well.. i wun let her do the house work. got maids ma.

i wun marry if i aint rich enough.

but yea, the part about boredom. hmm.

BadzMaro SG

she got friends ma . wont be that bored la.

thats why its always better if ur close good friends wives are close with ur wives its important. n when give birth they will all come support. So the boys can hang out at the club the wives can go and have thier own thing.

jojobeach SG

she got friends ma . wont be that bored la.

Sorry dude.. the important ones are not YOUR close friends's wives. It's your wife's close friends that really matters.

Who gives a shyt about your friends wife.. they are just people she needs to entertain to keep you happy. Get it ?

Yes it is true.. a man should provide the support to his wife so she don't get too stressed out with family chores.

Like my married guy friend said before " When the queen is happy, the kingdom is happy."

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