Does woman needs a man these days?

last SG · 2008-03-19T20:47:58+00:00

then we all shld listen to a song...NAME WHere is the love.....Lol...ZZZ... .....I like this song too by Black Eyed Peas

the Bear SG

.....actually, everyone wants to be needed. Doncha?

By wanting someone to need you is not a sign of insecurity, whether it's man or woman....

need.. there are many things to "need"

i would want my partner not to need me.. so that if i get hit by a truck on the way home, she'd be able to take care of herself and live a long fruitful life without me..

and if she can, she'd not "need" me.. she'd "want" me..

that, is so much more wonderful

wonderamazement SG

Maybe no need but "want"?

rlsh07 SG

......met quite a number of women in my line of work and social interactions. They told me they don't really need a man to make them feel complete. With higher education and better income than men, they can live well single-ly. If that is the case, then are we men become redundant? In other words, "Not Needed!"?

think cannot say like that one. it's love and commitment that bound two couples together though.

NeverSayGoodBye SG

nope. I want to be wanted :D because of who I am

but I get all stressed up when I am NEEDED because of what i can GIVE that person.

that's the difference isn't it? If you are needed, it is essentially what you can give. So if you can't give it - then what? You are not needed anymore?

.....how do you feel if one day your boyfriend say to you " I want you, but I don't need you"?

If my girlfriend told me this, I won't feel good.....

Relationship base on "wants" is on shaky ground. "Wants" is a feeling that fluctuate, it can disappeared any time. "Needs" is something you have that the other person do not have. That's why couple come together to complement each other needs...

rlsh07 SG

.....how do you feel if one day your boyfriend say to you " I want you, but I don't need you"?

If my girlfriend told me this, I won't feel good.....

that is why couples have to be commited to one another lo.

ShrodingersCat SG

.....how do you feel if one day your boyfriend say to you " I want you, but I don't need you"?

If my girlfriend told me this, I won't feel good.....

heehee... thankfully the relationship that I have with my husband is not based on need but on choice :)

and it feels great, each time he does something special for me, I know it is because he appreciates me for who I am

not what I can do for him.

Both of us were perfectly independent people, who are happy with our lives before we met. ...and choose to be together, because we make each other's lives better - but does not mean that we cannot live WITHOUT each other.

And I like it this way, because we both are able to give each other space.

OF course, this does not mean that there are NO TIMES that we NEED each other - just like family and friends, once in a while we NEED support.

But the need should not be a constant criteria in the relationship.

rlsh07 SG

heehee... thankfully the relationship that I have with my husband is not based on need but on choice :)

and it feels great, each time he does something special for me, I know it is because he appreciates me for who I am

not what I can do for him.

And I like it this way, because we both are able to give each other space.

OF course, this does not mean that there are NO TIMES that we NEED each other - just like family and friends, once in a while we NEED support.

But the need should not be a constant criteria in the relationship.

i guess u two make the decision to be committed to one another. i think need is not the word here but is commitment though

NeverSayGoodBye SG

need.. there are many things to "need"

i would want my partner not to need me.. so that if i get hit by a truck on the way home, she'd be able to take care of herself and live a long fruitful life without me..

and if she can, she'd not "need" me.. she'd "want" me..

that, is so much more wonderful

.....need is not equal to needy, which wrap around you like a cling plastic. Don't you feel good if you possess something in you that your girlfriend needs? Say she is an up and coming musician and you're a very talented song writer, doesn't it complement both of you?

When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment

ShrodingersCat SG

i guess u two make the decision to be committed to one another. i think need is not the word here but is commitment though

Yup that's right :)

commitment is a DECISION. you DECIDE something than you KEEP to it because you promised.

it has to be a CONSCIOUS decision - not simply based on feelings like passion, needs, desire bla bla.

cos very hard to have Passion and Desire when old liao wrinkly and bo gay no teeth.

ShrodingersCat SG

When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment

complement is adding to - not NEED.

requirement - is fulfillment of NEED.

Complement means without the other one still functional - the other one just makes it BETTER.

the Bear SG

When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment

i'd rather she say she wanted me..

see what shro-cat said

rlsh07 SG

When a girl says she needed you, doesn't mean she is weak or clingy.. Should take that as a compliment

i feel that you should not care abt the word "need" so much though. i do however agree that couples should complement one another, that way they can support each other though. it also takes a decision on both parties to be committed to one another though.

rlsh07 SG

Yup that's right :)

commitment is a DECISION. you DECIDE something than you KEEP to it because you promised.

it has to be a CONSCIOUS decision - not simply based on feelings like passion, needs, desire bla bla.

cos very hard to have Passion and Desire when old liao wrinkly and bo gay no teeth.

passion will dies off one because when everyone is old, the looks will fade. it's important that both parties have to be committed to one another and love each other for what they are truly. looks will fade but character will still stays though

NeverSayGoodBye SG

Yup that's right :)

commitment is a DECISION. you DECIDE something than you KEEP to it because you promised.

it has to be a CONSCIOUS decision - not simply based on feelings like passion, needs, desire bla bla.

cos very hard to have Passion and Desire when old liao wrinkly and bo gay no teeth.

.....how do you commit? To live with another person for life is not easy leh..

NeverSayGoodBye SG

.....you talked a lot on commitment. How do you stay commited?

rlsh07 SG

.....how do you commit? To live with another person for life is not easy leh..

that 's why a decision have to be made lo. not easy but then i believe there is someone worth living with for life though.

rlsh07 SG

.....you talked a lot on commitment. How do you stay commited?

it starts by making a decision and stick to it lo.

rlsh07 SG

not difficult to make decision, but not easy to stick to it though.

NeverSayGoodBye SG

i'd rather she say she wanted me..

see what shro-cat said

.....I still prefer her to say she wanted me and certain parts of me which she needed too..

rlsh07 SG

.....I still prefer her to say she wanted me and certain parts of me which she needed too..

well.. then gd lo. because that's the way to make you feel you feel special though.

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