Just something to share..why is it dat some guys out there,when
they make friends with girls,they will see them as potential
targets,and not just friends?
Would u consider them as despos?
Consider a typical cases in sgf :
Guy meets girl. Start going out together as frens. Gal is
comfortable with guy. Gal is enjoying his company. Guy falls for
gal gradually. Guy doesn't dare to confess. Gal has no idea wats
going on. Gal continues to treat him nicely or even be closer with
him. Gal goes into "best buddy"mode. Guy thinks gal likes him too.
Guy gathers courage to confess. Gal is surprised. Gal rejects guy
but still keeps in contact. Cos she does not want to lose a GOOD
FRIEND. Guy thinks still may hv hope cos gal is giving him second
chance ..and the story goes on..
The prob with the above scenario is that the guy view the girl as a
potential gf right from the BEGINNING whereas for the gal, it is
just as friend. Period.
i think the prob is dat many guys don noe there is a DISTINCT
difference btw how a gal would treat a good friend vs a potential
bf/husband,
and how they would LIKE TO BE TREATED by a good friend vs a
potential bf (tis is the tricky part guys)
Guys need to ACCEPT this fact because it is how girls think.
And nothing can change their way of thinking cos it is a work of
nature.
imo,the general rule is, if a girl feels very comfortable with a
guy, can pour out all her problems,woes, and crap, jokes,laughs
with the guy and all = good friend material ONLY, typically.
Btw,pple say dat good friends can become couple and they cite the
case of the mediacorp couple Priscilla Chan and her fiance. But
these sort of cases is very RARE. Theirs could be due to under
exceptional circumstances.
Im not trying to dent the hopes of guys out there who hv been gd
friends with a girl they like and are trying to bring it to the nxt
level.
Just trying to portray reality and hope it can help spare fellow
bros frm unnecessary agony.Reality bites. 
juz my 2cetns.
