Why are some people born a natural flirts and others couldn't
charm the backside of a bus if their life depended on it?
The power of flirting goes beyond attracting the opposite sex.
Master the art of flirting and you also become a friend magnet and
can use your skills to influence business relationships.
"You've either got it or you haven't!" is often what you will hear
men saying when they boast about their conquests. Women, on the
other hand, are more coy when talking about a man they have met. So
as not to appear full of herself, she will often say to her friends
"Oooh, I don't think he likes me, what do you think?" If she is a
successful flirt, however, she will be thinking along the same
lines of a man, "Yeah, he was putty in my hands!"
Flirting is an art requiring confidence without being OTT. A
successful flirt knows how to get the balance just right; too much
and there is a real danger you will be labeled as "slimy" (if
you're a man) and "tarty" (if you're a woman).
If flirting doesn't come naturally to you, you can learn to flirt
by building your confidence, believing in yourself and interacting
with other people.
Here are some basic flirting tips which can be practiced at work
and/or on a social scene.
Have Fun!
First and foremost flirting is fun! Whether you are the flirter or
the flirtee it makes both parties smile (on the inside as well as
the outside!). Don't take it seriously; be playful, be
light-hearted, be infectious!
Ooze Confidence
The best flirts have a positive outlook on life and are happy with
themselves. To successfully flirt you need to feel good about
yourself before you are able to transmit this "feel good" factor to
the opposite sex. If you display a positive and optimistic attitude
to life you will find yourself connecting with people who are right
for you.
Make the first move
Don't wait for someone to approach you. If it's someone at work
you've got your eye on, wait for them to go to the kitchen and then
make a beeline for the coffee machine. The same applies in a bar,
wait for them to go to the bar and then squeeze in next to them.
Start with a simple "Hello" and take things from there. What have
you got to lose?
Pay a compliment and receive a smile!
A genuine compliment costs nothing and yet can make someone feel so
special. If someone looks great, tell them! If someone has achieved
something to be proud of, tell them! Once you start making someone
feel good about themselves, they are more likely to want to spend
more time with you! And if someone pays you a compliment, be proud
of the compliment and say "Thank you!"
Eye to Eye Contact
Eye contact is one of our most powerful communicating mechanisms.
Most people don't have a problem making eye contact with someone
they dont find attractive but they become awkward in front of
people they are attracted to. If you tend to look away at people
you like, practice making eye contact with people on your way to
work a quick glance and then turn away. This is a good way to build
up your confidence. Dont stare; however, this will make people
feel uncomfortable!
Pitch your voice
Learn to vary the tone, pitch and speed of your voice. A voice rich
in tones sounds far more interesting than one dull note!
Listen
A good flirt has the ability to get people to open up and talk
about themselves. Pay attention when someone is talking to you and
ask questions to show you are interested. The best questions are
the ones which will lead to someone remembering a positive
experience about themselves.
Move your body!
There are many positive body language signs: lingering eye contact,
smiling widely, touching someone, head tilting to one side, running
fingers through hair, undivided attention but if you really want to
let go and flirt openly, just dance! Dancing is a great form of
self-expression allowing you to interact with someone and
connect.
Smile, Smile, Smile!
Make your smile contagious! The more you smile the more people will
want to know you and be around you!
Dont be rude!
Flirting does not involve being sexually explicit! Nor does it
involve being offensive if someone rejects your advances. If you
have been flirting with someone and are not receiving positive
feedback dont get disheartened or take it personally, move on to
the next person! You may want to consider a different approach if
you are getting a lot of rejections.
Send an Email
Emails are a great way to communicate with someone if you're too
shy to approach them face to face. Whether it's someone you are
interested in at work or you want to try internet dating, emails
and instant messaging allow you to flirt without blushing or
getting tongue-tied.
Be careful not to become intimate online too quickly though; it's
easy to paint a rosy picture of the person behind the monitor but
until you have met them you don't really know them. My message here
is get to know someone online before arranging a date, but don't
fall in love before meeting them! The reality could burst the
bubble!
PS: i believe this helps in getting know new friends and
enlarging ur social circle also. don't u think so
