Is a case of give and take.
If you read all the posts in this thread you will realise that
those couple who surive well together becos they willing to help
each other and to built a better future together. Marriage is a 2
party effort not one sided affair.
Is the same rule as friendship, will you be friends with someone
who keep asking for favours but refuse to help out when you are in
need?
Answer to TS question is very simple. How long can a one sided
pampering last? 1 year to 9 years?
Lets do a case study to help people understand.
Guy A marries Gal B, he pampers and takes care of his wife very
well. Gal B naturally wants more by the days go by.
Examples "HDB too small, I want bigger one "
"Gal B friend's big new car, Gal B wants a bigger one"
so on...
If Guy A is rich is ok for him to keep up with Gal B demands but
what if Guy A is just a normal average singaporean living in a
realistic world?
In order to pamper his wife even more, guy A have to work longer
hours and spent less time with Gal B. Gal B conplains and ask why,
but forgotten the hardship guy A had to put in to meet his wife
growing demands.
Gal B thought since guy A can make it so she ask for more.
See the cycle?
What did poor guy A get in return ? nothing but more demands and
wants coming in.
"don't most guys promise to be nice, to accomodate the girl all his
life? i mean, as a gentleman, shouldn't the nice gestures continue
even into the later years?"
I do not believe such crap as I have seen so many guys get into
debts becos they want to pamper their wifes well. Gals always used
this type of excuses to get what they want and give nothing in
return.
I want to challenge the title
" for married guys, how long did u pamper your wife? "
With this words.
" for married woman, have your demands and wants ever grow smaller
and understanding for the man whom work so hard to provide for you
grow bigger?"
