LAW OF THE SEEDS
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Take a look at an apple tree. There might be five hundred apples on
the tree, but each apple has just ten seeds. That's a lot of seeds!
We might ask, "Why would you need so many seeds to grow just a few
more apple trees?"
Nature has something to teach us here. It's telling us: "Not all
seeds grow. In life, most seeds never grow. So if you really want
to make something happen, you had better try more than once."
This might mean:
You'll attend twenty interviews to get one job. You'll interview
forty people to find one good employee. You'll talk to fifty people
to sell one house, one car, one vacuum cleaner, one insurance
policy, or a business idea. And you might meet a hundred
acquaintances just to find one special friend .
When we understand the "Law of the Seed", we don't get so
disappointed. We stop feeling like victims. We learn how to deal
with things that happen to us.
Laws of nature are not things to take personally. We just need to
understand them - and work with them.
IN A NUTSHELL
Successful people fail more often. But they plant more seeds.
When Things Are Beyond your control, here's something that you must
NOT DO so as to be happy: You must not decide how you think the
world SHOULD be.
You must not make rules for how everyone SHOULD behave. Many times,
such thoughts can bring you spiraling down into more
unhappiness.
On the other hand, let's say you expect that:
Friends SHOULD return favours.
People SHOULD appreciate you.
Planes SHOULD arrive on time.
Everyone SHOULD be honest.
Your husband or best friend SHOULD remember your birthday.
These expectations may sound reasonable. But often, these things
won't happen! So you end up frustrated and disappointed. There's a
better strategy. Demand less, and instead, have preferences! For
things that are beyond your control, tell yourself: "I WOULD PREFER
"A", BUT IF "B" HAPPENS, IT'S OK TOO!"
You prefer that people are polite.. but when they are rude, it
doesn't ruin your day. You prefer sunshine.. but if it rains, it is
ok too!
To become happier, we either need to:
a) Change the world, or
b) Change our thinking.
It is easier to change our Thinking!
IN A NUTSHELL
It is not the problem that is the issue, but rather it is your
attitude attending to the problem that is the problem. It's not
what happens to you that determine your happiness but rather how
you think about what happens to you!
