I don't think that is the problem. I think the problem is that
you are "unawares" i.e. "blur" and unconscious i.e. "sotong" about
how most people will interpret what you write.
Normal people will say: "I was so irritated" and not "I feel like
beating her up" then complain that people fail to understand what
you are trying to say and that you do not REALLY feel like beating
up your mother even though you said it.
