What do you all think??

joel1836 SG

One of life's many mysteries that i am still trying to figure out...
Let's hear what all of you think??
I am more to women's views.

Which is better,to be loved by someone or to love someone??
No in between please.

Is it posssible to love 2 person's at the same time??

Is it possible to a guy and a girl to just remain as good friends??

Lastly, if you were faced with ALL 3 problems/questions at the same time,what would you do?? Rolling Eyes

tiggersgd SG

same qns….

RiotZ84 SG

(1) To be LoveD.... cos only then will U be showered with sweetness and joy... though... if things work 2 ways would definately be the best.

(2) Humans are greedy.... 1 is never enough... have a fren who thinks so... though if there is a person whom U really like and love... dun be greedy.... stick with it.

(3) Possible... though hard to maintain... just keep reminding yourself. Currently having a nice gd fren (for >10 years...) so its possible...

(4) erm.... take the person who likes you. If U really like a person... dun be greedy for more... make things complicated and miserable for everyone. Lastly....please refer back to ans (3).

Good Luck and may my views help U a little. Very Happy

summerain22 SG

Which is better,to be loved by someone or to love someone??
No in between please.
To be loved. It's nice to know that when your world comes crashing down, he will always be there.

Is it posssible to love 2 person's at the same time??
Yes. Some people might argue that one is love, while the other lust. I disagree. No one ever said that if u love someone, u can't love another.

Is it possible to a guy and a girl to just remain as good friends??
I'm a living testament. My best friend in the entire world is a guy. We've been best friends for 6 yrs now. Plus, most of my close buddies are guys.

Lastly, if you were faced with ALL 3 problems/questions at the same time,what would you do??
Rolling Eyes

chunyong SG

Eh, listen to 933 ‘Love Diary’, got alot of students say they form gd friends with the other sex but then later sad ending as 1 of them wish to go beyond it. Anyway, i think most of the stories in ‘Love Diary’ are fake one loh….so too many coincidences and some are far too unrealistic.

NeonTetra SG

ask Simon Lim..the Captain of your hearts…class 95 !!!

Si|verGa| SG

many ppl said to be luved is better but many times e person who luv is nt reli e person u luv.. many times is u dun even hv abit of feeling 4 them but they reli treat u gd.. but then if u r luv by sumone whom u dun even hv abit of feeling,it can be quite a torture. sumtimes u might even feel irritating.. dat wad my gf told me coz nw she experienced tis! Laughing
luv i guess mayb not.. mayb dat is a possi u luv 1 person but the other mgiht be like or juz a temp crush..
of coz possi if they make tin clear in e 1st plc say they only treat each other as fren & nutin more than dat Wink

M©+square SG

Do you know that you can have many different answers from different people?

I personally feel that mysteries are not meant to be known and disclosed. But to be lived with. Look onto the positive side and not too seriously in matters of the heart.

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Lastly, your last qns tells that, if a person are really faced with those three probs at the same time.

He/she is messed up Evil or Very Mad . In huge sh!t and cannot make it .

Because he/she is not capable of handling relationship, not knowing wat he/she wants. It adds on burden onto people around him/her, hence becomes hazardous to friends or parties involved.

What he/she needs to do is to find him/herself again. To take a step back and see what does he/she really want.
Thru that, only can a person make sound decisions and not allowing too much of the heart to take the lead. Time will tell if your decisions are right.

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Ultimately, nothing is too good or too bad (Sounds new age Rolling Eyes )
But only through master's hand, situations could be suited to the best of his/her favour.

Idea Think about it....and stop attempting to solve the mysteries. Live with it and learn how to grasp it within your control Wink

Cheers

joel1836 SG

To: M©+square

I agree to what you say to a certain extent. My perception of thing are always somewhat sceptic and more reserved. I am more of a pessimist by character. I guess the most important thing my problem is timing. The time of which person came first to my life. The first person who is my very good friend and the second person my girlfriend. Fair or not i don't know. Fact remains that i know my good friend will always have a very very special place in my heart (which BOTH of them will never get to know of course).

All these thoughts actually came to me in the midst of me planning for my marriage. What i know now is that i must be fair to my girlfriend and that is the right thing to do. Irregardless of how i feel or what i want. I am not trying to be selfless but i feel that as a guy i have to be fair to everybody....

M©+square SG

To joel1836:

I appreciate that you took notice of my post.

I believe that you can make the decisions.
However...to further understand your situation.
I really have to consider putting myself in your shoe.
Then will i share something which is close to your heart.
I hope.

May you continue your quest. Take care.
Congrats on your coming wed.

RiotZ84 SG

Rolling Eyes Whoa....Ur problem sounds like those in the movies.... Caught between 2 Gals... one is great... the other is wonderful...

My suggestion: Give urself some quiet moments to think it thru... and make up your mind & once U have decided and stick to it... Dun regret later as it will only result in unhappiness for 3 people.

Lastly, All mentioned above is JuZ my opinion... Not to say I am teaching you how to rule ur life and make decisions for U.

RiotZ84 SG

calibataire SG

i prefer to be luved by someone.... maybe too many sad experience ler... so prefer the other way round.... luv someone is really tiring when u luv him/her more than he/ she does....

maybe some pple will think that it is possible to luv 2 persons at the same time... but for me... i can't....

y not???.... but it might also depend on the reason for break up (if u two were once a couple)... and the mind set of the other party....

difficult qns.... if there were 2 persons, one i like the other i like him but he likes me more, then probably i'll go for the one who likes me more..... maybe im selfish but.... after though experiences.... ive toughen up bah.... i'll definitely not two time... worse cum to worse... both also dun wan... Wink