Can guy and girl be close friends?? I mean real close ones

last SG · 2003-09-21T10:05:28+00:00

i mean you may say you want platonic so you yourself know..but you cannot prevent other people suspect otherwise..your girlfriend and her boyfriend cannot l...

fun_seeker24 SG

hi everyone..
found this forum very active and fun.

well as shown on the subject, wat do u think of this??
Wat i mean by close is not physically.. but say... emotionally
wat do ya think?

www SG

technically, yes.

and technically, very hard.

sweetoof SG

[color=violet]Agree here. Usually they tend to fall in love and become an item then they end up being enemies..

BrUtUs SG

its possible…

M©+square SG

It's possible. But prepare for lots of tough obstacles. Rolling Eyes

wa|th3r SG

I have a quite a good female friend, a purely platonic relationship. Many times i had fallen in love with her, but was able to hide the fact and get out of the spell. And she doesn't know all these. Til date we're still very good friends. Wink

borgkilla SG

No way you can be really close friends

sure got problems Rolling Eyes

wa|th3r SG

First of all, no relationships can be without problems, because "nothing is perfect" is a fact. You can't argue/dispute facts.

Second, nothing is impossible. Wink

choco B SG

Tough, but not impossible. Both should be mature enough to know how to handle the friendship.

summerain22 SG

It is hard, I'm speaking from personal experience cos my best friend happens to be a guy. There was indeed one period of time when we tried having a relationship, but we broke up cos it was so weird cos he is practically a brother to me.

You will feel some sort of feeling somewhere along the way, but it depends on how u handle them.

People who dont have a close friend of the opposite sex dont know what they're missing out on. I treasure him more than any of my other friends. There are just some things that only guys understand. Wink And, sometimes it doesnt hurt to have an opinion from the opposite sex, like when choosing clothes or perfume cos girls and guys have different tastes.

Plus, a guy can watch out for you. Mr. Green

lv_gal SG

usually there will be problems along the way.....
as time passes, friendship might turn into luv r/s....
it's depend on how maturity both parties r to handle n mk clear line of this r/s...

but is it not impossible to have a close guy friend.. i do have a veri close guy friend where he is more than an ordinary friend...
so it's up to individual thinkin on hw u treat him/her is......

dumbdumb! SG

from my experience... no..

well, firstly. i would be afraid that i will give the wrong impression to the girl, then she become interested in me, then i would be in a very uncomfortable situation.. that happens..

on the other hand.. i in the end developed feelings for the girl, and end up getting hurt in the process.

what i feel is. can get close, but not too close..

NeonTetra SG

possible...esp when tt girl not attractive hhaa.

if otherwise...its also possible....i am doing it now.

sh|nY_BoY SG

hmmz.. pls explain ur real close ones is like?? to what extend?

wa|th3r SG

Agree.

It is usually inevitable that such would happen. I have a very good girl-friend myself, and 2 times i had very big crushes on her. On my side, i simply tried my best to conceal my feelings for her loh, because i only want to keep the relationship platonic. Afterall, i perceive both of us to be extremely incompatible by romance but very good as friends. Besides, loving someone, to me, doesn't mean that i have to necessarily possess her, so long as she's fine and happy, that's good enough for me.

So i am saying that maintaining such a friendship is possible, only that it is very difficult (especially when the your friend is very chio/yandao). Wink

Cheers

edLow SG

tat wat i or maybe i should say... most fear of...

yi xun SG

i've a very close guy friend.. we are friends for about 6 yrs + liao... both of us have gf/bf... but i do find him whenever i have prob or when im bored. we'll also meet for lunch or dinner sometimes.. but now, not that often liao... cos we are both very busy with our own stuff... so i think guys and gals can be close friends.. Wink but indeed, its very rare... Neutral
P.S: i've never fallen for him.. he too... Very Happy

NeonTetra SG

u so sure abt him??

Nata|ie SG

Yes.. and I'm a living example... My best friend is a guy and we've known each other for abt 3 years.. he's attached while i got de-tached.. lolx..

Frankly is all abt the 2. Defintely got ppl tease and stuff.. but as afr as the 2 are concern.. u noe tat it is only friendship and nothing else matters. BEing friends comes from the heart too, so ya.. it can be done.. Mr. Green

^MaRcUs^ SG

haha...
not totally true la...
Many guy's best friend will be of the opp sex...
becoz guys wun be patient to talk or listen to another guys...
keke
but that will not be the case to gals...
I think a guy and gal can be very close friend and not get into any
RA thinking or action...keke Laughing