uhh... one colleague has a bad attitude, and i swear is about
150 to 170 kg (serious!) is married...
i've never seen her but the office people say that she's pretty,
intelligent and nice... and that he's good and nice to her...
everyone has someone.. just gotta look out for her
if
you sit on your hands lamenting what you cannot change, you will
never find her 
p.s.
if it was easy, would you value her as much?