Hi there,
I just introduce myself as a father of 2. Now,whether having
children will bring you more happiness or fulfillment in life is
actually quite personal. It depends largely on your goals and
belief in life.
Family life has been great for me and I've always felt that they
were my happier part of my lives. The energy, sacrifices placed
were more filled with purpose than what I do at work. The money
earned also seemed to have more purpose in them rather than just
gathering them for riches and spent for personal satisfaction. With
the sacrifices and tons of energy and some money I've spent on my
children, I could feel the importance and roles I play in the
family which can be demanding and even overwhelming at times. But
it beats idling at home or a less purposeful life at home just
facing my wife or slogging my life just for work.
Building a family in S'pore is of course expensive but it all boils
down to living within our means. A house, for me, whether it is a
bungalow or a simple HDB flat is only warm because of the people
inside. A house is also only warm because I have help to make it to
be. Housework has to be done, bills have to be paid, babies have to
be fed and bathed, children has to be played with and discipline,
rules have to be worked out together, consolation and encouragement
have to be given, mess have to cleared, quarrels have to be
settled, habits have to be changed, relaxation and breaks have to
be taken, compromise have to be given, ....
Making a family work is definitely not easy and often I think
harder than work which I guess is why some ppl say it is better
stay in the office to work than face the family at home. In any
case, whether at work or family, life will be hard but life as I
take it to be will always be easier whenever there are my family
who are close to me and will stand by me.
