Gals are unpredictable

bus SG

Sad
Hi, I knew a gal recently and initially, we started off quite well. She SMS to me quite frequently till 2 days ago when she started to behave very strangely. She told me her job is busy recently (maybe) and I called her last night and to my surprise, she did not answered my call and when I call her the 2nd time, she shut down her HP!!! When I SMS and call her the 3rd time, she answered by sounds a bit siam sian type.... I did not persist on and I told her that I will communicate with her some other BETTER days.

In my heart, I have started to forget this person etc. When everytime it always turn out to be like that?? why Why Why why why Why.... I believe there might be some misunderstandings between the 2 of us.........I have been thru this type of nonsense after my NS...It seems that there is no fate at all for me with other gals..I am really really sad. Must I go overSea to get a wife eventually or it is all predestined that I must accompany my Bettas for the rest of my life.... Really giving up...really. Please do not feel sad/sorry for me as I basically do not know the reasons at all.....

Cerebral_Assassin SG

i think quite a lot of the girls like that. i also face a lot of such b4. i also always like u, once the girl like dun show interest in being more friendly when she should be, i'll step back. but i think as the guy, u should be the 1 to proceed further and lead the way. should not take a step back. i recently post a thread regarding girls are defensive. i believe it is the reason y girls sometimes will behave as we face it.

Hammer & Sickle SG

Quite true a statement. But one must also understand that if a gal starts to behave like this, there must be certain reasons. Either she's not interested in you, or she's having mood swings, or she's playing mind games with you, or she's a complete heck-care type, or she's uncomfortable with you getting closer to her to know her more, or she feels that she's not prepared to have a relationship at the moment.... many many other reasons.

It's true that a guy should be presistent in courtship. But if such a case happens, it's always good and considerate enough to take one step back to allow some space for the girl to move abt and to think things over. This might help in the long run, as u keep the friendship going at the same time.

Courtship requires time and lots of patience. Wink

Cerebral_Assassin SG

exactly that are so many damn reasons and it is for me impossible to differentiate them. since bus situation is seeking for a gf, i suggest to him to pursue, at least give yourself some hope. if not, there's no hope. dun think of it as making yourself cheap all that. it is call courting girls and girls need to be courted.
and 1 more thing i discovered. the older the girl(as in maturity, e.g. between a poly student and a university grad), the more passive or bei dong they are. young girls tend to be more daring and try try things while older girls tend to sit back on their so-called settled life.

bus SG

That's why gals are so difficult to understand. Keen in U, care for U etc and when it comes to the most important situation, Nabey.... she hides one corner -- don't know do what..... Sad

Hammer & Sickle SG

I agree with what u said.

It's good to be persistent, but try to avoid over-doing it lor. In fact he should give himself some chance also. Go, Go, Go!

Best of luck!

Cerebral_Assassin SG

hahaha
u noe what because the girl suffering from depression
i met 1 b4, 1 of my good friends met 1 b4
i never find out y, and i tell my friend to ask, indeed he asked and the answer is the girl is suffering from depression and lost

bus SG

All gals despite pretty, fat, slim, tall, short etc all behave the same patterns when U become nicer to them and they get the hints

1. Will paiseh and wait for your call/SMS/emails if they are interested and will only admit it after the guy persists.

2. will avoid U, see U but pretend see nothing if the 2 meet on the streets..Nabey...

Agree with me that all the gal's ma-chiam patterns are the same?

Cerebral_Assassin SG

agree with u on that part pretty, fat, slim, tall, short. because if they dun think they got some standard, where got us guys will like them so they'll be more tao liao

i think 80% of the girls will only admit after the guy admit 1st. no.2 not so agree.

bus SG

They will STILL want the guys to admit it 1st, say the 3 famous words in the universe (LOL, Nabey), then they will submit to U....Wah Lau...

As for the negative ones.... avoid u is the most common reactions they will react when seeing U on the way

Cerebral_Assassin SG

OMG.......hahahaha
die die must say the 4 magical words
saying something similar and slightly indirect is no use
actually i have saying those words a bit hard
and each situation i say b4, i'll remember for a long long time and most of the time find it stupid lor
damn nabey 1 lar
maybe more sensitive guys will find it easier to say

bus SG

I just don't understand why gals like those 3 special words from the guys so much.... Cannot don;t say meh..some gals will get angry if the guys did not say it to them...Nabey (LOL)

Can those 3 words make them prettier meh? Nabey (LOL)
Time is not getting young and I will resume this thread again tomorrow. Maybe will be at Yew Tee watching Bettas Competitions. stay tune Bros.............. Smile Good Nite.

^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~ SG

Gosh...
I agree with most of Ur statements and views...
Such a long one 2...
Actually some gers care alot on looks of the guy(Didn't meant all gers)...
Then they dunno how U look, den they'll see ur "sae"(pattern) first to determind wat type of person are U...
Then they will after tat tok nice nice, sms nice nice, send sweet msg...
But once they see U, they avoid...
Tok less then 3 sentence, they say they in a hurry...

But aniway, I really wan to hear a female opinion on this topic...
Would be a great discussion if someone were to get a female/s in...

weeeeeee..... SG

well, experiencing that myself right now.

but the problem is, i have no intention to get into any relationship at all. i juz enjoyed her company when we were out together.

then suddenly, she becomes unresponsive, unapproachable...

dunno whether she has mistaken me thinking that i'm courting her or some sort that makes her becomes defensive. perhaps so, i dunno..... but i can tell that she's subtlely avoiding me.

it bothers me sometimes, not becoz i actually care abt her. it's becoz i'm wondering what i have done or i have said that makes her behaves this way. more of a self-realisation for me, rather.

looks like seeking a sincere friendship sometimes will not get appreciated.

anyway, WTF...... if she wanna see things so superficially, by all means.

kopiosatu SG

girls are such a drag…

evanesence SG

SHE MUST BE HAVING P M S !!!!!! [/b]

xavier1979 SG

1. She's not interested in you.
2. She doesn't want to give you the wrong impression.
3. She's irritated by your persistent SMSing or calling.
4. She has found a guy she loves.
5. Her handphone bill's too high.

NeonTetra SG

like weather................... Rolling Eyes

Cerebral_Assassin SG

i believe those girls that care abt looks are damn egoistic and think themselves are god's gift to guys. if not i dun think so. because met a gal b4 said i yandao but i think i will fail in process of further courting her.
most girls can't even understand themselves so i always think that their judgement on guys sucks big time. this is probably 1 of the main cause of the famous sentence 'after getting married, the guy will show his true colours'. that's because they dun even understand the fiance in the 1st place. those guys that cannot understand girls will find courtship a chore. those that can understand will be a big time player.

bus SG

I feel that sometime the gal also does not understand herself. when a guy approached her, she will be very nice to her but after a while maybe she realised the guy is not the type she is actually looking for, she will become unapproachable, unresponsive to calls/SMS/Emails etc.

The gal's heart is very difficult to understand..just like weather