When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right
place at the right time, that's chance. When you meet someone
you're attracted to, that's not a choice. That's chance. Being
caught up in a moment (and there's a lot of couples who get
together because of this) is not a choice.
That's also a chance.
The difference is what happens afterwards. When will you take that
infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next
level? That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and
contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete
relationship or just a fling. If you decide to love a person, even
with his faults, that's not a chance. That's choice.
When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that's choice.
Even if you know there are many people out there who are more
attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide
to love your mate just the same, that's choice. Infatuation,
crushes, attraction comes to us by chance. But true love that lasts
is truly a choice. A choice that we make.
Regarding soul mates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I
believe is so true about this: Fate brings you together, but it's
still up to you to make it happen. I do believe that soul mates do
exist. That there is truly someone made for you. But it's still up
to you to make the choice if you're going to do something about it
or not. We may meet our soul mates by chance, but loving and
staying with our soul mate is still a choice we have to make. We
came to the world not by finding someone perfect to love...
BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly.
