Memories???

pheonix SG

A guy has sex frequently with his gf. After they break up, will the guy:

1) miss those times he's had with his ex-gf?
2) regret breaking up with his ex-gf after a period of time eg.1-2 months and try to look for his ex-gf again?

Please comment... Confused

Marmalade Boy SG

If the guy truly loves you, then from time to time... he will think about those happy times that he had with you be it making love to you or going out with you especially when he feels lonely or lost. But if he doesn't loves you then he is just after your cherries besides he will just go and find another girl to add to his list of girls that he had sex with. To regret once he has lost you then i think this guy isn't worth your time. If you can break up once, you can try a second time but if it happens a third time... what is the point of continuing this relationship. Break and patch over and over again is no joke. I have been through this for 6 years and it wasn't easy. In the end, either one of you will just give up or both at the same time. Love makes us blind... what to do?

daniel21 SG

I don't really see sex as an impt issue. Maybe it's my own thoughts. When I know I like a particular girl, surprisingly, I will not be interested to do it with her. Yes, probably, the proximity will come along one fine day but it's never in my tots at first.

For a guy to go back to his ex, I will have to say maybe he missed having it. So it is an easy way out getting the poor girl cheated once more of her feelings. I didn't do it before (going back to my ex) so I dun know how it's like. But I think if any party is deceived, she will be very hurt. Crying or Very sad

Marmalade Boy SG

Well said! I totally agree! Mr. Green

pheonix SG

I see… so am i right to conclude that if the guy wants to patch back again, it’s wise not to go back to him?

Marmalade Boy SG

It depends on how you feel towards him! If you both broke up once and he wants another chance. Its your choice whether to give that second chance but if its the same results after you give your second chance. My advice would be "don't bother with him anymore".

pheonix SG

so what if its the guy who starts giving the gal cold shoulders in the 1st place, and treats her very cruelly like avoiding her call, refusing to meet up for a real talk even when the gal goes all the way down to look for him etc., does such a guy deserve a 2nd chance?

Marmalade Boy SG

If i was in your shoes, i would give a rat's ass about him or how he feels. But then i am not you so the choice is yours. Sometimes, your love for him may be stronger than anything else. Don't let others make the final decision for you but make the choice yourself. If it works out, it works out and if it doesn't then you can't blame anyone or have any regrets.

pheonix SG

So what about still remain as just friends with him?

Marmalade Boy SG

Remaining friends with him... its fine but don't be shocked if the more you talk or the more you go out with him... your feelings for him will just come back. I was once like in your shoes... only difference is that it took away 6 years of my life and sometimes i still don't know. Good luck and wish you all the best!

daniel21 SG

Forget about him. I agree with Marmalade Boy. Evn if you still have feelings for him, it doesn't rule out that he'll hurt u again. Most likely during the time when he gave you the cold shoulder, he was double-timing you. And now, probably when all's over, he wants to get together again so that he can enjoy yr love, care and concern without much effort.

Like what I advised one of the girls I was interested in, A good girl will definitely deserve a good guy. You will meet him sooner or later. But when he's in front of you, grab him, because GOOD MAN ARE NOW EXTINCT!!! according to girls' perspective.

Marmalade Boy SG

I agree with you, dude! Wink Glad that someone thinks the same!

pheonix SG

haiz… love is so complicated…

Marmalade Boy SG

Love is complicated and sometimes makes us blind too! What to do? Mr. Green