I've found that I'm talking less now too....
I used to be able to give my friends a lot of advice whenever they
confided in me their problems, I always seemed to have something to
say...
nowadays, I find that a lot of times when people tell me their
problems, I have nothing much to say....
I guess it's due partly to the fact that whatever I feel like
saying is what I think they already know and they obviously don't
need me to have to tell them those things, b'cos that would just
sound lame....
I've found that when friends tell me about their problems, what I
do is not to advise, but to give them the view from a different
perspective and let them analyse for themselves with a slightly
clearer picture, and not just the one-sided view they may have of
the situation. I may end up confusing the person, but I think it's
still better to give him/her views from different perspectives and
just leave the rest to them.....
Telling them what to dois of no use b'cos they just won't listen...
People don't take advice at face-value nowadays, I know I
wouldn't.... I would prefer to figure it out for myself.....
