sissys and gays are two different type of men, i wld say.
sissys, they are still a guy and they still fall in love with
women. but their actions are abit girlish.. and the way they behave
are v gentle. i'd a lecturer who is a sissy, but he's married with
2 children! furthermore, he had been thru NS...maybe he work as
clerk or wat...but he is not a gay....
a gay is someone who likes men and men only. and ya, they usually
declare that they are gay before they are enlisted into NS...
as for ur frene, have to accept for who he is lor.. maybe he
prefers to be this way lei...? u sld be thankful that he is not a
gay... 
