lemme answer this in a different point of view from what others
had reply.
many eons back, in my very early 20s, i used to be that kinda guy
as well, when in courtship or in love, i'd tell her how much i love
her, how much i can't do without her.
yes, it was true, but i felt so not emotionally. i felt so because
i wanted to satisfy my sexual urges, i want a "warm body", a
beautiful female, but the funny thing is: i DIDN'T know that when i
said all these to her. i THOUGHT it was really from my heart.
i was very passionate, getting ourselves to intimacy, to heavy
petting, to sex. i asked for sex for an average of 3 to 4 time a
week.
then, i grew tired, not physically, but juz tired of having the
same "warm body" over and over again. i couldn't understand why i
felt so, i thought i love her, i thought i can't do without her.
then i realised that i can't do without her not because of
love.
i felt guilty. guilty because my feelings for her was not genuine.
but i did something worse. i didn't wanna admit that to her.
instead, i purposely pick her faults and used them to break-up wif
her.
i succeeded, but felt even more guilty. it's as good as that she
had been cheated by me, she had been used by me. i can't believe i
could do this sort of thing to someone else. i'm a jerk!
when i finally decided to give her a call to ask for forgiveness,
it was already almost 1 year after i dumped her. but unfortunately,
i can't reach her. heard from her friend that she has already left
for australia to further her studies. until now, after 6 years, i
still don't know where she is.
i hope she's happy now. i hope she has forget me already. i hope
she has found someone who is much better than me, someone who truly
love her.
not a jerk like me again.
as for ur case, it is very likely that he had used u like i did to
her too. finding faults is only one of the common excuse to dump
someone. he's not worth for u to remember him.
and also, i'm not worth for her to remember me either. neither is
to forgive.
why u can't forget him is because it takes time. no need to try
very hard to forget a person. the harder u try, the more difficult
it is for u to forget him.
trust me, no need to try at all. u will forget him soon before u
realised it. and when u realise it, u will look back at laugh at
yourself.
