well i'm sure (and i HOPE) sgboy has more values offline. i do
admire him for his relentless facade in these forums tho. in other
words.. BUAY SIAN AR??? 
anyway back to the topic:
it reminds me of the mental (sometimes physical!) lists that people
write to define their ideal partner. such lists are a product of
one's logic. in their heads a person who is: gentle, caring,
humourous, etc etc would be great wouldn't it?
however we don't love with our heads. we love with our hearts. so
isn't it pointless to find someone to love with a list that is
produced by our heads?
i'd like to share with you something that i've read, that pertains
to the topic at hand:
He always seemed to women different from what he
was, and they loved in him not himself, but the man created by
their imagination, whom they had been eagerly seeking all their
lives; and afterwards, when they noticed their mistake, they loved
him all the same.
