kb24 SG ok i have this problem. Being myself means that i will tend to talk very little,i will be quite boring and just a low profile type of person. All these qualities are'nt really good when it comes to meeting new friends and gatherings among old friends. So my query is,should i maintain being myself,which is extremely boring and risk making less friends; or pretend to be some1 else so i can seem more interesting and outgoing,and hopefully end up making more friends? This is really hard to decide so any1 can help?
banzie SG It is quite impossible unless you don't want to have friends or you live alone in an island... I'm a crazy mad man myself so when I'm with others I need to be more constraint. Diplomatic is good at times. Although standing on your ground is good also when times are tested. Important thing is Do what is right I guess.
Darkness_hacker99 SG I am like you, very quiet and low profile. If you want to make more friends, you'll have to be out-going and active in conversations. But there are pros and cons of being low profile lah. The chose is yours.
Xiaozzhen SG You can talk very little, but what you say makes you an interesting or boring person. If what you say can churn more discussion, oh boy, what a conversation starter you are. Being interesting is a skill. Read more and interact more can help. No need to pretend. But there's a saying " Life is a stage".
FireIce SG other than yourself, you will have social selves ur attitude and behaviour will be different when u are with diff groups of ppl like at home, in school, at forums outing, at fren's BBQ, in NS, dating the girl u like.....
Xephone_xenon SG When you start mixing with others you will find yourself coming to like your "new self" Trust me.
eagle SG talk with body language be yourself. Any changes you want should be done gradually, and not forced upon till it becomes unnatural on u
SGpork SG i can dont talk n i can talk alot.. my frens know.. so...if i start to talk..they will listen to me..when i dont talk..they will talk to me. u can try talking abit more everytime..when soon.. u get used to it..if u feel so bad n way comfortable being the old self of u.. then also good..
caleb_chiang SG Just be yourself... Sometimes you would open up in different group of person... it is just natural because sometimes you feel more comfortable with that group of people.
AndrewPKYap SG "You" don't exists... meaning "You" can be anything... it is all in the mind... and some practice...
Deino SG lol be yourself a..... just change your habits. you cannot run away from nature. But you can adapt to nature instead.
popikachu SG I am a odd guy... I always prefer to be alone... But i always fear to be alone... I dont really like to talk, BUT i want someone to talk to me... Am i crazy lol i think so...
Bontakun SG Being oneself is what defines an individual from a group. An identity that is unique to each and every individual. Be yourself while you try out new things. There is no need to pretend to be someone you are not. If you are not, no matter how hard you try you just can't find the proper fit. We are all learning as we are taking every breath now and then. What you were yesterday is no longer what you are today. What you will be tomorrow is not the same as what you are today. Learn new skills. Discover more of yourself and find out what are you actually. You maybe quiet, boring or low profile now, but that does not mean you will be quiet, boring or low profile tomorrow.
